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Fuck Him and his Barbour - dating chat 10

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watchoutforthatsnail Fri 16-Mar-12 10:00:49

New thread - you know what to do smile

watchoutforthatsnail Fri 16-Mar-12 10:08:04

Mylittle - ether dont give out your number unless you are really sure, or just be prepared that if they are weird, they might send random texts. Have you heard from your date? are you going to do it again?

Mrs C - any update?

You know i said earlier in the week about A being rather over enthuasitic with the texts etc... well, after skirting round the issue for a week he says ' im going to have a wank and think about you and cum everywhere'. I tell him thats just great and what every girl longs to hear confused and ask him where his girlfriend is. he replies that she is downstairs. WTF. Why? just why???? Im sorry, but i just do not understand the mentality of texting some girl ( me) when you could get laid with your girlfriend who is in the same house. His gf who is is supposably besotted with and trying for a baby with ( thank you twitter for that info) Clearly he is an absolute scum bag.

Then the one on my FB starts sending me pretty much the same messages as A did, Though hes not living with his GF... but fucks sake.

PostBellumBugsy Fri 16-Mar-12 10:17:19

Watch, great thread title!!!!

and they are the guys playing the system to their own end. They are the ones who will hurt those who are not looking out for themselves. You are right, they are scum & do not deserve a moment of our precious, valuable lives.

I have heard from the one i went out with and i think we are just going to be good friends, but he is really super nice, and fantstic at hugging me!

I am now talking to another nice chap! He also seems really nice and am going to meet him after i move, cos he lives close by then

I am just glad i am not an evil person and managed to actualy have the guts to go out on a date......next! Only joking, well sort of!

I wont be giving my number out again. At least he doesnt seem dangerous and despite getting some texts yesterday i havent got any yet today. Think he is leaving me alone!

watchoutforthatsnail Fri 16-Mar-12 10:24:37

They are also the ones, who, if you call them on it, deny it and act all affronted.

If you knew them, especially A, you would think he was a super nice guy, terribly middle class, but lovely. You would have no idea. His GF probably thinks hes lovely too, but hes not.

Its shit like this that makes me only interested in casual sex, because as far as i can see, anything else and you are in huge danger of getting fucked over.

lovesineffable Fri 16-Mar-12 10:26:07

haha..who could fail to be flattered @ the thought of a man jeking off whilst his mind fixes on some nasty vile thing that his g/f wont do and he hopes you wil
yuk yuk yuk sad

watchoutforthatsnail Fri 16-Mar-12 10:30:33

Its grim isnt it.

Oh, A doesnt want to meet up and catch up or anything, he hasnt send any more cock pics ( last ones i got were in dec i think?) just, he wants to talk filth to me and wank and then tell me about it.
Then he is still ' being good' and not messing anything up with his GF.

doesnt it all just make perfect sense.
hmm

Nope, he is married....or was, him and his wife have split and he has 4 kids.....the oldest is 12, and he seems so nice! Maybe wont be in real life, but hey there is only one way to find out! He has been through it with his missus too

Perfect sense, he is fantasising about cheating on is girlfriend, yes lovely, such a nice guy!

Heleninahandcart Fri 16-Mar-12 10:36:21

Is A the one with the Barbour? I'm not surprised, what with him and his 'supercum' hmm.

watchoutforthatsnail Fri 16-Mar-12 10:38:14

no, the barbour was sponges.

shinecrazydiamond Fri 16-Mar-12 11:03:46

Hey guys.. long time no speak [ well, apart from lots of you on FB grin ]

Just an update on me... still happy with my bloke and all appears to be going well...I don't like to jinx these things though so shan't say too much more! Anyway, I am a shadow of my field playing self of last summer..but if it goes tits up...I'll be back to join you all!

How's it going? Watch? Lubey? Time? Poppa? Etc...

Snapespeare Fri 16-Mar-12 11:12:47

so basically it's a tightarse way of getting off on a wank-line. pfft.

no real update. PM is talking about moving away. I am having some issues with this. My Dad left, two boyfriends from my teens left London to get away from me ( I know this isn't true, it's what your head does sometimes...) My ex left, the other ex left...people leave, so what is the point?. meh.

(I know all this is nonsense, but it's that annoying little voice of self-twattishness that pipes up when you least expect it...)

<waves around new thread>

lovesineffable Fri 16-Mar-12 11:14:07

watch I'd tell him to phone me up and talk filth, he can pay per minute..disabuse him of his delusion that women exist to selflessly serve mens needs

watchoutforthatsnail Fri 16-Mar-12 11:30:58

hey shine, so all loved up and everything then? wow smile congrats. Hope for us all!!! lol

Snape sad thats shit, you know its not because of you, but i understand why you have issues, and a little wobble is allowed.

and yes, i have no desire to be a free text wank service, i have bloody said so too.

I shall just ignore in the future, fuck him smile
( just pisses me off when you call them on it and they say, ' its just a bit of fun, stop being over sensitive')

lovesineffable Fri 16-Mar-12 11:41:00

and they would say that wouldnt they..
Thing is, it's a bit of fun for him, but whats in it for her?
Or does he think she is so honoured and flattered by the attention of a man that being the focus of his fantsy is gratification enough

watchoutforthatsnail Fri 16-Mar-12 11:54:29

i have no idea. I really dont.
I dont think they are actually thinking anything of her, other than just how they can get themselves off and how amazing their cock is.
I think their brains go like this
' theres a woman, shes hot, ill flirt with her, oh, yeah, shes talking to me, fuck, i could have her * que porn film running through his head*

and thats basically it.
then you go ' WTF DUDE' and they go ' huh, it was just fun'

Im going to blame online porn for that one, and people being disposable and hiding behind pcs/ phones or whatever.

lovesineffable Fri 16-Mar-12 12:00:20

you're right, i'mcrediting the guy with way too much insight, most of his brain is mapped onto his cock, there aint room for much else smile

PostBellumBugsy Fri 16-Mar-12 12:01:19

I think they are scuzzy people & their brains work as follows:

"Ah internet dating, that sounds like a hassle-free way to have fun. Hmmm, lots of women looking for a relationship of some kind (be that physical or otherwise). Bet some of them will believe that I'm unhappy in my relationship, or may even actually swallow my ginormous lie that I'm single. Yeah, hopefully I can get some tit pics / norty texts / wank fodder / maybe even a shag out of it."

There is nothing we can do to stop them. We can only be vigilant for ourselves & try to steer clear of such turds.

That's why I think that unless you are just looking for no strings sex, you have to be very careful. Treat them as the complete strangers they are. Remember that you can peddle any old shit online & no one will be any the wiser. If you don't want to be used or hurt, then find out about them, get to know them, meet their friends, children, family. Imagine for one moment that you are advising your own daughter & then take your own advice!!!!

watchoutforthatsnail Fri 16-Mar-12 12:05:32

ah, these arent men on dating sites, they are real life men.
Chasing after me, when they are in relationships, and when they know that i know they are in relationships,
and not caring that i know, other than i might tell.

If they were online, fair comment, but men you ' know' makes it worse. You tend to have your guard down with ' friends'

Zanywany Fri 16-Mar-12 12:44:58

Hi Watch Poppa Shine Adams Snape Time and everyone else.

I've been really busy this week, feel shattered, Bloody tax credit are trying to get £1500 back from me £600 of it from 6 years ago so slightly stressed at the mo.

All going really well with Mr Yacht still, he is now on my FB as MH for fellow FB buddies.

adamschic Fri 16-Mar-12 13:04:43

Hi Zany and Shiney. Glad everything is going well for you both.

Zany, I have already checked out your holiday snaps and Mr Y looks very nice, coupled with the Y as well, well done to you.

I'm doing OK, quite distracted with stuff going on with DD atm but looking forward to a date this weekend, going out for dinner. He has a bit of making up to do grin.

Sorry about the tax credits they are a nightmare. Hope they only claim a small amount back per week.

As for men wanting to talk flith, fair enough if it turns you on but if you don't want it then just don't engage, simple. Someone I know who I have met many times in RL sent me a fb message over christmas, when he saw me online. He asked if I fancied a s--g. He got deleted and blocked and is ignored in the street. Message received, I reckon.

PostBellumBugsy Fri 16-Mar-12 13:09:06

Yes, Watch sadly they are there too - but at least you can usually tell what their situation is up front. More friends/acquantances husbands than I care to think about have made subtle (& some very unsubtle) approaches to see if I would like some "fun". Again turdy, scum!!! I just thank my stars I am not married to them.

adamschic Fri 16-Mar-12 13:15:03

Gawd yes, friends husbands coming onto you is just the pits. Had to deal with this a few times.

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