We're talking about separating but also talking about trying again and I just can't decide what I should do.
I still love him and DP says he loves me but is not "in love" with me. Maybe I have driven him away as I have had some devastating personal problems in the past few years and have been difficult to live with; taken out a lot of frustration on him, I suppose. The spark has gone.
We've been together 14 years, love each other(?), have a DS age 9 and I have two older children. There's too much at stake to just give up now, isn't there?
On the other hand, I am so unhappy with our relationship because he absolves himself of responsibility at every opportunity. We never talk. He would be happy to come home every night, watch tv and drink beer which is what he currently does. All decisions, big or small, come to me. I have to choose if we split up just as I have to choose what's for dinner every night. Sex is a big problem and money is an even bigger problem. I resent him and am in danger of starting to hate him.
I've asked him what he wants and he says he doesn't know and I'm giving mixed messages because I'm so confused too. He refuses go to Relate but I am on the waiting list for individual counselling. I've reached breaking point now and feel physically ill, can't eat or sleep. Please help me get through this.
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I know I'd be better off without him but I just can't let go or give up hope
littlecritter · 02/07/2010 11:33
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