I now have two children, aged 4 and almost 7 months. For now, they absolutely adore each other. I am aware that this may change at any given time, but for now I feel lucky that the worst we deal with is the 4yo being overzealous in her love for her brother. In fact, this time, when we have been expecting jealousy to rear its head, we find she has in fact been waiting for this time, as he actually interacts a bit with her now. She loves it.
I want them to continue this way. But I know that in my family, siblings are not close. Some families grow up to be very close, and others don't. I know there are circumstances involved in my upbringing that influenced this, and those circumstances won't be present in the family I now have with DH and the children.
And I know that I cannot force them to love each other as older children, or as adults.
But, I can, we can ensure we provide the best possible environment for both of them, together as sister and brother, but also individually as daughter and son.
So, when you grew up, with your siblings, what things did you love? what things did you dislike/resent/wish were different? Did you feel your parents treated you more/less favourably or about the same, were your differences celebrated? similarities shared? Are you close to your siblings now? how do you think your upbringing together had an impact on that relationship now?
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Those with siblings. What did you like/dislike growing up?
WoodlandFaerie · 17/06/2010 20:37
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