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How much physical contact do you and dp have? How often do you kiss/ cuddle/ etc....

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ireallyreallyhatefootball · 13/06/2010 20:44

Wondering what's 'normal' although I'm sure there's a wide range of normal.

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IMoveTheStars · 13/06/2010 20:45

Bad stage of normal, but hardly ever at the mo

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Collision · 13/06/2010 20:48

All the time!

Kiss in the morning and snuggle in bed. Hold hands lots. Grabs me for a snog and to embarrass the children.

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ireallyreallyhatefootball · 13/06/2010 20:48

Absolutely none here unless I instigate.

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PortiaNovmerriment · 13/06/2010 20:51

I think there is a huge range, and no right answers.it's a shame if you are both mismatched though. Me and DP are very touchy feely, but some people would hate that.

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gaelicsheep · 13/06/2010 20:52

Same here. I'm really feeling at the moment that there would be next to no contact unless I instigated - that includes a kiss/cuddle goodnight. I think he's just knackered most fo the time, but it doesn't help that I'm heavily pregnant and feeling unattractive enough as it is. I even tried voicing it last night, dropping hints, saying how unattractive I felt etc. etc. The answer - well you're not ugly. Gee, thanks - talk about being damned by faint praise. I'm ashamed to say I sobbed for a little while last night after that. I know he loves me, he's just damned thoughtless sometimes.

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AnyFucker · 13/06/2010 20:56

gaelic

outside of the bedroom, not much

we have been together many years though and have older children with very perceptive eyesight

inside of the bedroom (or when kids are not around)...lots

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4andnotout · 13/06/2010 20:57

We aren't touchy feely at all, we kiss eachother goodnight and when dp leaves for work and that's about it, we do sometimes have a cuddle in the kitchen but tbh most of the time we are usually chasing after the dd's so romance is the furthest from my mind!

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3BreastsInMyShirt · 13/06/2010 20:59

normally one kiss on the cheek at bedtime. but we did have a bloody good shag last night.

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mollycuddles · 13/06/2010 21:00

not much at the moment as I have a baby permanently attached at the breast. Missing the cuddles but if he does try I feel crowded as have zero personal space at the moment. Poor DH - he can't win right now

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ireallyreallyhatefootball · 13/06/2010 21:03

at your shag.

Been too long here since there was any action in the bedroom. No hand holding, no kissing, no hugging apart from when ds (!) asks for a 'family hug' with us both or if I ask dh in which case I get a wooden hug. I can count the number of times he's said I love you in our 15 years together and even then it was only when I'd said it first. He has never said it unprompted I think.

Some men are just like this right?

Gaelic - poor you. How sad for you.

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LittleMissHissyFit · 13/06/2010 21:05

we're not even talking at the minute...

3 days so far and I'm in no rush to sort it out unless he apologises, and bucks his ideas up...



best thing tbh

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gaelicsheep · 13/06/2010 21:11

Aww, thanks for the thoughts. He does say he loves me every day though. And I know he does, I really do. I'd just love for him to show it sometimes. I don't know about anyone else, but I don't really enjoy "bedroom activity" if I've instigated it - I feel like he just feels obliged somehow, especially at the moment. Are men generally turned off by the thought of the baby in the tummy, or is it just my DH?

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gaelicsheep · 13/06/2010 21:12

LittleMissHissyFit

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Hullygully · 13/06/2010 21:14
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LoveMyGirls · 13/06/2010 21:17

A lot I think, when he wakes me up, leaves for work, comes home from work, few times through the evening and we cuddle in bed for a bit, if we walk places we hold hands sometimes.

I am a very affectionate person though like this afternoon I met up with my best mate and I hugged her, walked along with linked arms and told her I loved her i had had a glass of wine and no lunch

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ireallyreallyhatefootball · 13/06/2010 21:20

Gaelic - some men seem to be. My dh didn't want to the whole pregnancy.

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amothersplaceisinthewrong · 13/06/2010 21:20

Oh loads, always hold hands/arms round each other. Snuggle up when watching TV. Loads of cuddles in bed and elsewhre. Lots of good sex. 24 years on.

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ireallyreallyhatefootball · 13/06/2010 21:21

What's really sad is just after we got together, my mum met him for the first time and said "he really isn't very affectionate with you is he, are you okay with that" and I was stupidly in love and thought it didn't matter but it does.

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LittleMissHissyFit · 13/06/2010 21:23

gaelic, you wouldn't say if you knew what he actually said to break that last straw...

basically he said that men are not born with tits so can't BF, which means that all the child stuff is down to the woman....

but oh no, he didn't stop there, that was an old remark... he added to it...

When I said that actually I couldn't BF, but still was able to be a mother...

he said That obviously it was a sign or proof I wasn't any good as a woman and/or mother cos of the BF thing....

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gaelicsheep · 13/06/2010 21:25

He sounds crap, but still for you having to go through it. Sounds like you're well rid though.

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ireallyreallyhatefootball · 13/06/2010 21:25

Good god Hissy - he has to go. That's terrible. Poor you.

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Malificence · 13/06/2010 21:26

Wait no more.....

Very touchy feely with each other, privately and in public, but it's odd that I can't bear my personal space violated by anyone bar DH.

We were out for lunch today and getting very strange looks from the miserable pair couple at the next table, we were laughing, stroking hands etc. and every time I looked up, the woman was glaring at me, they sat there in silence and it was depressing to view, they were a similar age to us too.

I feel that touch is really important, relationships will wither and die without it.

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Hullygully · 13/06/2010 21:27

See?

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thesunshinesbrightly · 13/06/2010 21:32

I don't know how people can go without affection i wouldn't be able to.

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AnyFucker · 13/06/2010 21:33

mal, I was that woman glaring at you

I was about to say "get a fucking room" when you left....

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