I've noticed an upswing in threads about flirting -> suspected infidelity and such. Maybe the warm weather's brought it all out - makes a pleasant change from abuse, in a way.
What do you consider 'acceptable' flirting?
I used to work in a very social industry (advertising). Flirting was part of everyday routine. I'd go for lunch with clients & colleagues; there was a function of some sort every night; about twice a week I hosted a late dinner on business. I flirted, I danced, I hugged and kissed (in a "dahling" sort of way), I enjoyed intense conversations that were often personally revealing.
Sometimes I learned more (psychologically & physically) than I'd asked to know, but I always felt safe. And I never threatened another's relationship.
I had a bunch of fun. I can honestly say I loved a lot of my clients & co-workers.
Now I'm back in the 'ordinary' world, I realise this very sociable behaviour is not always considered okay. At least 75% of the men I knew, back then, were unfaithful to their partners, and about 50% of the women. I don't know whether our environment provoked their infidelities, or whether they would have found a way to cheat anyway. I do know the people I most liked & respected did not cheat - but, sometimes, there was pressure on us to do it.
I know where I stand on all of this (it took me a while to figure out). I wondered what you guys think? Where do you draw the line? How did you arrive at your 'line', and how do you enforce it?
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IsGraceAvailable · 12/06/2010 22:55
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