Hello everyone, I am new to this forum, I am 9 weeks pregnant and suffering the usual fatigue and ! I need some help, advice and tips before I explode!
My partner is very caring, very excited and very pleased about the magic of my pregnancy. He's full of emotional support, hugs and ickle baby voices which he thinks is what I want.
The problem is, I feel so sick and tired I don't want to be touched, I'm exhausted and irritable and the baby voices make me want to kill him, and my busy full time + life has continued relentlessly despite me feeling ill. What I really need is him to use his initiative and have the house cleaned when I get home.
I've just driven for 4 hours back from a funeral. It's been a physically and emotionally exhausting day. I get home and the house is a mess and no tea is ready even though he promised it would be so I have a nap for an hour thinking I'll feel better and can eat a nice meal when I wake up. I wake up an hour later and nothing is cleaned and nothing is cooked and he's in the garden crafting a walking stick out of some trees he's cut down. I love the fact he is creative but why does he not understand that what I need right now is practical help, not dreamy idealism and baby voices?? I genuinely don't think I can cope with having a baby if this is the level of support I will be getting. It's not like he does nothing, he does more than his fair share of the housework but he just can't seem to up it to another level and give me the help I need on a practical level. I feel stressed and anxious constantly because the whole house is in a mess and that can't be good for my health. I find myself almost hyperventilating sometimes and I am normally a very calm and together person. Has anyone else struggled with getting the right help out if their partner? I know I need to talk to hi but I feel like every time I try he just has no idea what I mean. Opinions from dads also welcome.. Am I being unreasonable and hormonal and just can't see it? L
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Support needed from partner in early pregnancy, help me!!
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Jaynenott · 08/06/2010 21:21
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