the story so far
thursday - dh goes out with his mates drinking as one of them has just had a baby, so its a 'head-wetting'. fair enough. but he says to me "wait up for me will you, im not taking a key, ill not be late"
so i did, til 130am, he says they got carried away playing cards. he didnt even phone or anything, i was getting worried so eventually called him at 120am , he was on his way home. i had stayed awake cos i was worried if i fell asleep i wouldnt hear the doorbell.
saturday, my mum had agreed to babysit so me and dh could go out for a meal, but it transpired i had to work. my mum still babysat, dh came along to the pub (where i work) and had a couple of drinks, then told me he was going home. he said "ill wait up for you". i got home at 1am, he wasnt home yet! so i called him, he said he was still in the pub, had met a couple of mates on the way home. he asked me to come along, i said i was tired but i went anyway. when i got there i said "ill have a drink, leave the car and we can get it in the morning" he said, "oh, ive told all my mates youll give them a lift home" and they were all standing there waiting to go! so he hadnt asked me along for a drink, just to give them all a lift home! (but he denies this)
yesterday - he goes out golfing with his mates 11am til 4pm, leaving me at home to look after the girls (again). at 4pm he call and says "were in the pub, why dont you come down" so i did. the girls were having a fairly good time, but dd1 (toilet training) did a poo in her pants, and dd2 was getting hungry so i say "im away home to give the girls their tea etc" he goes in a major huff, and i get a bad name, for apparently 'making' him come home with me (i had told him to stay and finish his pint, i would take the girls home) we argued in the car and havent spoken since
he left for work this morning without us talking, and ive just sent him an e mail saying along the lines of "i just want you to understand things are hard for me, looking after the girls monday to friday 6am til 7pm, then going to work 4 nights a week til 1am, doing all the housework, and now it seems fetching you from the pub, looking after the girls while you play golf/cards etc"
what do you think i should do? its too late for the e mail
Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody
Relationships
ive just sent dh an email, now im worried, he'll see it when he arrives at work soon
nailpolish · 08/08/2005 08:27
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.