Beginning of the end

[clairebear28]

i havent been very happy with my husband for quite a while now, as per my previous posts, he doesnt really do anything for me, i feel like his mum half the time reminding him to do things, i do everything for us, bills, shopping, washing, 2nd job to earn extra money everything..dont get me wrong occasionally if i leave things he will tidy or clean but i have to nag.....anyway, couple of weeks ago i decided i had enough and was going to tell him i was leaving him, i decided i was going to wait till after our holiday, reason being that my dd is 5 and she has been looking forward to this holiday for a very long time and i didnt want to ruin her first family holiday.

at the weekend i thought we had a really lovely time and so was actually questioning if i did want us to seperate and if maybe he could change and make more of an effort.

Last night we had a big arguement/discussion, apparently i dont show him any affection, i dont want to cuddle and kiss or anything else and he thinks i always find a reason to not be at home, i work 2 jobs and once or twice a month i will have a girlie night out, im 28 and enjoy going out with the girls there is no harm in that! ever other evening im at home except when im working....i decided to tell him all the things that he doesnt do, all the things that make me miserable and he just sat there and stared at the tv...he doesnt seem to get that becuase he doesnt make me feel loved, he doesnt show me he cares etc it has put me off wanting to show him any affection...he says its always his fault etc etc but he doesnt listen, he doesnt seem to care. if i gave him the attention he thinks he deserves he wouldnt even think there was a problem!!!!!!!!!

In November, i caught him on a sex website!!! so i created a profile and started emailing him, he replied to these emails and arranged to meet "her" i should have let him meet her but i confronted him, he said it was all a joke he signed up to the website with the blokes at work and he was replying to the emails as he knew it was me, actually it wasnt me at all my mate did all the emails when i was at home with him. i know that is quite childish but i had to see how far it would go....after i confronted him i asked him to go, in 11 years we have never had a situation like that, he came back and i told him i wasnt sure if i loved him and all the things that he doesnt do etc and he said we would make it work and he would try....he hasnt!!! and i cant forget that damn website!!!!!

about 4 years ago, i was working 2 part time jobs and he accused me of cheating on him cos i was sooo busy and always at work and tired all the time....last night he said to me why dont you just be with my friend, he said you obviously like spending time with her, so what im a lesbian now????? she is one of my best mates and i chat to her on the phone and occasionally meet up with her.

I am so sick of him not listening to what i say, not listening to how i feel and trying to change them....i really think that this is the beginning of the end. i go on holiday on 7th june and when im back i think i have to tell him i dont want to be with him anymore....

The thing is he isnt a horrible man, he isnt nasty, he doesnt abuse me, he doesnt go out all the time and get drunk and in comparision to some ladies on here ive got it easy, im just miserable

OMG he has made me sooooo angry

[andreaaa]

Do you still have sex with this freak??

[clairebear28]

havent had for a while no

[lazarusb]

You sound really unhappy and you've made him aware of why. If he is choosing to ignore and not deal with this then I think you have to make a decision. It is hard on both you and dd and you will go through some tough times if you decide to end it, but if you don't think there's any hope, take a deep breath and move on. Good luck.