2 years ago DH became seriously depressed. Quit his job and ended up getting a 16 hr week cleaning job. He's set off at 5am and be back home by 7am. He'd then go back to bed (often in his clothes that he'd worked in) and stay there until afternoon and he'd still go to bed at 8pm some nights. He was constantly eating too.
Anyway it got a lot better, now he's kind of back to how he was when we first met but he's acting really strange and its not like last time. I actually want him to leave. He is scaring me. A quick example, a few days ago he was really down, wouldn't do anything, kept saying he was useless, everything was pointless, we had no future, everything was crap and he felt depressed. Then one day he woke up like a completely different person. All smiles, full of energy. Kept hugging and kissing me, going on about how happy he was, how he was looking forward to the future, how we should take out a huge loan, go on holiday and not worry about it because its only money and not important and we needed to see the world before we died etc. It was nice to see him happy so I ignored the wierd comments. Then the next day I got up for work, he was already up, sat on the sofa with a cup of coffee. He smiled and said "I've had 2 jugs of this already, I'm climbing the walls" (2 jugs of coffee is the same as around 10 cups of it. I was like "Ok I wouldn't drink anymore if I were you" and I went to work. When I got home he had got a felt tip pen and just covered the living room walls in pictures, writing, scribbles, he's poured god knows what all over the carpet and toothpaste had been squirted all over the bathroom. He was sat there and said "ok, don't kick off, there is a reason for it". I was too gobsmacked to ven speak but he continued "I thought we needed to decorate so while I'm in the mood, I've ruined everything so we have no choice but to do it all up!". The toothpaste was apparantly wasted as we needed more anyway and he wanted to make sure we didn't forget. He'd emptied my shampoos down the bath, the shower gel was all over the tiles.
I started shouting at him and he just laughed at me and said I would thank him for it later. What do I do now? Can I actually call a doctor? Am I over-reacting? I don't know what the hell to do.
And yes, I've namechanged for obvious reasons.
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I think DH could be mentall ill, don't know what to do
Mythology · 27/05/2010 14:38
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