And it's all over completely stupid stuff.
Background, I came on here a couple of years back after some advice re: my family, found it a nice place to be and stuck around. No kids yet, still live at home.
Although this situation will be changing ASAP after university.
I am fed up of being treated like a child. I get moaned at about my room, my weight, my social activities. Prime example of this, I went to a couple of bingo sessions on Thursday. Thursday is free bingo at Gala clubs, so I'm no losing anything. My mum has this HUGE issue with me going, even though I've been to all of 2 sessions.
Anyway, we're in Tesco today getting some stuff, and I need to draw some cash out to pay back my uncle (he lives with me, my mum and her parents) because I went out last night and hadn't been near a cashpoint.
I ended up paying for my night mostly on my card (had forgotten they accepted cards) so still had £30 of the £40 I was loaned. Well, when she found out I'd paid on MY OWN DEBIT CARD for something, she flipped out!
"Don't EVER do something like that again."
"Erm, mum, I'm 20 years old"
"I DON'T CARE, YOU DON'T DO THAT!"
"Why's it such an issue?"
"Because first you go gambling, going off to this bingo business, then you're using your card all over the place, and it's not even all your money!"
This is true, she did put about £700 into my bank when we opened the account when I was 16. She said she'd always intended for that money to go me. She also put in another £100 or so when she came into some money (I asked for NONE of it!). The rest, I've earned, EMA, jobs, DLA etc etc. So what business of hers is it if I use my card?
Anyway, she's told me if I'm planning to go out but don't have cash, I'm not to go out. Like that's going to stop me. She also said if I kept paying for things on card she'd take my card off me. Pathetic to be honest.
This is all before we get my granddad involved. His main concern is also my money, but he doesn't know how much I've got (a few thousand), and keeps moaning "Get a job, get a job, stop going out, you've got no money."
I've TRIED to get a summer job, there's no temporary work in the area, Alton Towers have turned me down, after working for them for the past 2 summers, and I can't get a permanent job because my uni course (film production) means my schedule changes a lot and I can be called onto people's shoots last minute.
So I'm trying to save money, and get as much work experience as I can. He's just generally controlling and also treats me like a kid.
Oh, I also have to be home by 11 because my mum wakes up if she hears a key in the door. This seriously affects my uni life, I feel I have no real friends on the course because they all bond on big nights out.
I am MISERABLE. I can't move out, because I can't earn money, so I'm trapped til next July at the earliest. Then it's off to Manchester I go and they can try and stop me if they want but I'll just go anyway.
Sometimes they can be great but then things like the Tesco incident make me remember how awful they can be.
Sorry, just needed to vent Feel really stupid posting on here
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LollipopViolet · 24/05/2010 19:51
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