I have remained friends with my former DH for the sake of my DC who are now almost grown up. I met my DP 10 years ago but my ex did not and has remained single. My current relationship has not been happy and I have confided in my ex to some extent but there has never been any question of a romantic or sexual relationship between us.
Last week asked me, out of the blue, how I would feel 'if he made a pass at me', his words. I was stunned. He didn't say he still loved me, or say he wanted to get back together with me for good but tbh if he had I might have been tempted. I used to think he was the love of my life when we were married.
I said that I wasn't prepared to betray my DP in that way even though I feel our relationship won't last much longer. I said I needed time and that we needed to talk a lot more.
He then said he wouldn't see me again if I didn't want to comply with his idea. I was devastated as I still love him.
I went round to see him and he said I should go away and think about it. I'm not sure what I feel but is he blackmailing me here? He knows how much I dread him disappearing from my life again. We are not teenagers but old enough to be grandparents.
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lindylionheart · 24/05/2010 08:56
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