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Bloody MIL!!!

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meandollie · 21/05/2010 10:57

Gargh! Venting to follow I'm afraid! SO

She's not actually my mil as dp and I aren't married, but we've been together 7 years so it's easier to call her mil. She Is so bitchy! A few months ago I was ill with a bad stomache bug and was in my PJ's at 10am when she came around to pick up ds for the day. She called me "lazy" for going back to bed to try and sleep it off whilst ds was out for the day!
Ever since she's been making insinuations about how I'm 'lazy'. e.g she was on the phone to dp the other week (she only ever calls when she wants something) and asked whhat I was doing, if I was dressed, if I'd been out that day....! I was fucking fuming. I hadn't been out that day because I was waiting for a delivery, I was dressed and I was playing with ds - she managed to make it sound like I was lazy and doing wrong by ds.

yesterday, I'd been joking with my cousin oon Facebook about how my arse is huge and I couldn't walk after being on my rowing machine. She saw this and commented saying something patronising about how it'll get easier in a few weeks....if you keep at it that lonng!!!! I replied explaining I was joking with him and I'd had the rower for months to which she replied "ah, but how often do you use it, haha!!!!" I said "every day". Now she's saying oh good, you'll have to come for a run with me when you're over if you're fit enough!

It probably sounds really petty to you from a diferent perspective but it's driving me nuts! I'm not lazy and I find it really insulting to be accused of it.

Sorry for the rant!

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mampam · 21/05/2010 12:46

She sounds like a patronising cow. Ignore her, she would love it if she knew her comments were getting to you.

Next time she's ill and in bed make a comment to her about how lazy she is

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onwardsmummy · 21/05/2010 12:56

she sounds like a bit of a bitch!

she's trying to wind you up... Is she a bit jealous of you and your DP?

Pretend that you don't care and she'll probably eventually stop , even if you call her black and blue behind her back!

When someone does this to me I just (when I remember or am not too angry!) stare right through them and start a conversation about something completely different, as if they've not even spoken - she'll soon get the message.

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Lucy85 · 21/05/2010 13:11

She does sound mean I agree, but cuold it be that she doesn't realise how it sounds? I'm just thinking, things sounds worse when you're sensitized to them. She probably had no idea you were conscious of your arse??

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meandollie · 21/05/2010 13:11

Thanks I've calmed down now - vented my anger on my rowing machine!

I also posted this on am I being unreasonable if you want more background I would normally ignore this type of thing but I put on 2 dress sizes after ds and she is fully aware that it's a big insecurity of mine. Oh well, she's just motivated me even more on my exercise routine now!

onwards I don't know if it's jealousy, she doesn't make any effort to see him (even when she's 20 miles away) since we moved away and only ever calls him if she's after something. Maybe she is a bit bitter that we've moved away from her. But she's never been very maternal dp says, very selfish too.
I wouldn't care if I never had to see her again if it wasn't for dp, it must be so hurtful, bless him.

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