DH and I have been sidestepping the topic of having a third DC for a few months now, and not really addressing the issue head-on. He knows that I want to TTC. He has always known that I want to have three children. DS1 is 4 and DS is 2.5. When DS2 was a baby, I believed I would be doing all of this again. I didn't think it would be the last time. He knows how strongly I feel, yet last night (when we finally managed to get everything out in the open) he was utterly resistant to the idea.
I felt so completely shocked by this and by his unwillingness to discuss it and now I feel completely knocked sideways.
I know how lucky I am to have two DSs. They are wonderful. But, rightly or wrongly, I feel that a piece of my family is missing and I have this all-consuming need to have another baby.
I have tried so hard all day to get a grip on things but I don't know what to do with myself. I don't want to argue with him, and I don't want to strop or get upset, but I need to make him understand how I feel. How do I do that?
And why is it so hard? I don't want to put pressure on him or force him to do something he doesn't want to do, but is the only alternative really having to accept that DC3 will never happen? That seems too hard.
I feel completely at a loss
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DH doesn't want a third DC, but I can't think about anything else
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MissLiss · 04/05/2010 14:10
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