Dh had a long term affair with the OW, we started to try and salvage the relationship a few months ago and things have improved. Some of the ease we had previously in our relationship returned, though I had not yet quite forgiven him.
I discovered last week that he was still in contact with her (emails, lots of them). He's met her for an evening here, an hour there.. They seem to be friends now, friends who 'support and care for each other' they also appear to have been jealous when they have seen the other talking to members of the opposite sex, and there were emails reassuring each other that was not the case.
He doesn't appear to have told the OW about us and our resumed relationship.
When confronted he told me that the OW has cancer and he felt awkward and sorry for her and had only planned to see her a few more times.
He has offered to stop all contact with her and showed me a message he sent were he tells her he will no longer be able to help her.
However, I've sent him away. This was not his first affair. I am right in this aren't I? Even if the recent contact had been innocent (and I'm not sure) it is still a form of betrayal?
Sorry for the long post, was hoping to get some perspective.
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This contact with the OW is not right is it?
Jemlinus · 03/05/2010 10:48
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