I just hope that the light I can see is the light at the end of the tunnel and not a train coming in the opposite direction!
I shall try to keep it short.
For regulars, I was Stirling.
H had affair 3 yrs ago - it lasted nearly 2 years. He treated me badly during this time - not physically - emotionally.
I tried and tried to make things work for our 3 dc's sake but he couldn't let her go so I let him go. Approx 14 months ago I stopped trying and, even though he has lived in this house, things have been really strained.
He now works away so we only see him at the weekend, which suits me. This weekend I convinced him that we should tell the dc that we are separating as I dont want them thinking this is a normal relationship.
We sat them down (DS 10, DD 8 and DD5) and told them mummy and daddy dont love each other any more etc, etc
DS went quiet and DD's just laughed and pulled funny faces at each other. Thought they didn't get it but maybe that was their way of dealing with it.
Later we went to a theatre as I had booked tickets to see a short show and dc seemed fine. We went into restaurant later and had a small meal then H said he was leaving (as normal) to drive 300 miles to where he is working.
Well, the dc just burst into tears, along with H. My gorgeous DS was furiously wiping the tears away. My 2 DD's ran first to H for a cuddle and a cry and then to me. I told H to go and then I held them all in a huddle while they cried. God knows what the other people in the restaurant thought.
I am trying to see this as a turning point and hope that now we have this in the open, we can start to move on.
Time will tell.
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PrettyFeckinVacant · 25/04/2010 23:33
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