I'm afraid this is probably going to sound like some dire daytime TV programme but please I need advice.
I have a good friend (will call her V). I have only known her a year or so but I am fond of her. She always strikes me as quite vulnerable but I am so impressed by the way she has dealt with the tough hand she has been dealt. Pregnant as a teenager, unsupportive parents, started her own business when she was bringing up her girls, survived on almost no money for ages, a series of abusive relationships, ex restricting her access to her little boy. I know she drinks too much sometimes and i know she is volatile.
Recently she had a big falling out with her partner's ex who isn't easiest of women to say the least. And the ex has stopped her partner seeing their DD - because of V apparently. And she has also not seen her own boy for a while. She came to see me and poured it all out - how unfair everyone was to her, how she missed her boy and her partner's DD. I felt so sorry but could offer nothing but tea and sympathy. She feels rejected by all her friends - no-one is having much to do with her atm.
On Friday we went to a birthday party. The host was the brother of V's partner. Had a long chat with his wife (also a good friend will call her J) who implied that there were child abuse issues involved which is why neither V's son nor her partner's DD are allowed to V's house. And why J and her Dh have nothing to do with his brother (they are very close usually) J warned me very strongly, as a friend and as a social worker, not to let my children go to V's house without either DH or I being present - something we have done in the past as DS#2 is the same age as V's boy, and DD likes V too.
Now I am a bit freaked out. Both by the hint that my DC might have been under threat, but also by the fact that a friend of mine is being ostracised by something she may or may not have done. And even if she has done something (no details were forthcoming) I still want to support her.
What do I do?
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OrmRenewed · 06/04/2010 11:05
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