For past few weeks I have alarmed myself at how cross and resentful I feel...and ashamed of how I'm behaving.
When I was on mat leave I did pretty much everything for DC - food, clothes, nappies, washing - which was fair enough because I was at home.
Now am back at work, and am appalled at myself because I seem to be in a low-level (and not so low-level) sulk a lot of the time. I take DC to childminder and pick up, do bath, organise food, clothes etc. DP cooks evening meal which is great, but I find myself resenting the fact that he never has to think about the boring 'what shall i give DC for lunch/tea/are there clean clothes?' stuff) Plus at the weekends he never ever changes nappies unless I force him to....and never does bedtime.
He does do stuff if i ask but often forgets or won't do it for hours
Eg we ended up having a huge row y'day because I said 'DP do you want to feed DC lunch or hang out the washing?' He said he would do the washing but immediately got distracted and decided to make DC an omelette for tea...It was stupid of me to get cross, he was doing a lovely thing but I thought well that could have been done 3 hrs later and if the washing didnt get hung up then then there would be no dry clothes for today...and my suspicion was he wd forget to do it altogether
But realise I am being very grumpy and difficult and not appreciating what he was doing. Can't bear the way it is - just snapping at each other all the time, and try hard to bite tongue - then get sulky again. Tell me to be grateful for what I have....How did you work it out?
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How do you work out what you and DP do? Am feeling angry but realise am behavingly badly
whattheheck · 05/04/2010 08:46
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