To be sick of being skint because of DH

[cookiemonster100]

Hi,

A few years back by DH lost alot of money on a business venture which has increased our debt levels significantly. Only when it went belly up did I realise the true extent of what he did.

Cut to a few years later, and we have worked through this however I am really getting sick & tired of being skint all the time!

He is working two jobs to repay the money he owes. I borrowed money to help him in the initial stages of his business venture as well as raiding my savings to pay back some of the debt to the lenders who were getting serious (collection agencies) towards the end.

The thing that is getting to me is that I don't feel he is making any commitment to repaying the money I borrowed for him plus as he never has any money we are leaning on my wages. Hence my debt levels do not reduce because I only have enough to pay the min payments. Also I am expected to pay for the "additionals" in life. E.g. we are going abroad for his brother wedding, and some how I am paying for the flights, hotel, as well as upgrading the car hire so he can ferry his parents around. He has not even asked them to contribute. I am not saying not to go to his brother wedding, but he openly admits that he has no money to pay towards it. Also he keeps going on how he will pay me back but there is no action behind these words.

Thanks for reading

[Tortington]

well if he is paying other people back first - it seems sensible as you (presumably) won't take him to court?

you are a partnership. he is working two jobs to pay off his debt - its not like he isn't doing anything.

[flabbymummyof2climbingboys]

I would tell him how unhappy you are with the situation as it is. it would not be unreasonable to explain to him you aren't willing to pay extra for a car to ferry people about.