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DH has suffered with depression for years. I have always tried to be patient and calm and help him in any way that I can. We now have a 4mo DS and my ability to support him is waning. I feel like I do not have enough to look after our child and him. He is no longer on ADs and thinks that the depression has gone. He wakes up angry, has no interest in DS or me, is selfish, his own first priority and is bitter about the fact that I am at home on mat leave. He has forbidden me to see friends during the day saying that my role is to look after DS and keep the house, however his standards of how clean he wants the house are constantly changing and I feel I cannot keep up. I am so lonely and feel like I am losing the ability to cope. I have asked him to go back to the GP but he says that the only reason he is so stressed and angry is because I don't keep the house clean enough (the house is like a showhome but is never good enough). I don't know how much longer I can take all the blame and keep doing more and more to try to make him happy. I cried all night last night thinking back to when I was pregnant and how excited and full of hope we both were. It has all gone so wrong. What do I do?
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sososelfish · 17/03/2010 12:17
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