Hi, sorry this may be a strange post, I'm new to mumsnet. I want varied advice and experience as I'm at a loss what to do for the best.
Without going in to lots of details I've recently had a very big and unpleasant falling out with my dad, step mum and step brothers and sisters. It's come to the point where I've not seen or spoken to anyone accept my dad for nearly 6 weeks, a total unheard of.
Lots of things have been said, some taken the wrong way on both sides but the actual cause of the arguement was just really the tip of the iceberg and it's resurrected lots of old resentments.
I'm now in the situation where my husband refuses point blank to have anything to do with my family. He says they are poisonous. I have to say in the past I've always felt very guilty when we say no to things, they want far more from us in terms of spending time with us, wanting contact with our son etc than we are comfortable with. (This isn't the main issue)
I have felt in the last 5-6 weeks happy in a strange way that not having them in my life removes so many negative things. I am however starting to wonder am I just running away from things and should I be trying to resolve them.
I would be forcing myself to try to sort things out but wonder if we are maybe not giving them a fair chance, I have just have this llttle niggle that perhaps even if we sort things out now long term nothing I ever do will be enough or good enough.
So my main question is do I try and talk my husband into sitting down and talking to my parents? I'm so confused I don't really know what I want.
I'm sorry for this long post and the fact that there are no details but that would take far too long! Anyone in a similar situation or have been, your advice or comments would be so appreciated.
Thanks for reading.
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ebaxter · 13/03/2010 15:32
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