Has anyone been in the situation where they really really don't want to tell their parents they are pregnant for family politics reasons?
Just wondered what people's thoughts were, maybe if you are a mum and your daughter was pregnant but she didn't tell you till after she had had the baby.
I am pregnant with my second baby, 7 months gone. My parents tried their best with my first baby (it was their first grandchild and I am one of 4 of their own children so technically there should be lots of future opportunties for them to be grandparents). They came to visit with my firstborn, bought gifts, tried to be tactful and have not intentionally offered unwelcome advice. However they have said things since my firstborn was born which have raked up my childhood, parts of which were unhappy due to their unhappy marriage, domestic violence etc. Since the 4 of us children left home they have decided for their own reasons (maybe cannot be bothered to look elsewhere or maybe the stress of having us 4 totally shocking children was the problem and everythign solved since we left home!!) to stay together and my mum in particular maintains a solid defence against anything negative about our childhood ever being uttered together with a new "loyalty" to my Dad which must not be questioned. Since my baby was born I have found this particularly difficult, and have felt very strongly that I don't ever want my baby exposed to domestic violence or conflict so I keep my mum at her distance. My dad is just distant and absolves himself of responsibility, we have not really got on or communicated for a very very long time and I think he and I have both accepted that.
To add to this my sister has experienced 8 years of infertility and would badly like a baby with her husband herself so my "news" of a second baby will not be welcomed particularly gladly there.
Now I have reached 7 months pregnant I am seriouly considering just not telling any of my family I am pregnant and just make excuses why they cannot visit, they live far enough away for this probably to be achieveable.
If you are a grandmum / parent would you be absolutely livid if you found out your daughter had had a baby and she didnt even tell you she was pregnant in the first place?
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Not telling your parents that you are pregnant, until they find out after the birth
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needmoreenergy · 12/03/2010 14:13
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