Hi i'm new on here and hoping you ladies on here can give me some advice. I'm really stressed out at the moment and if i don't talk to someone soon i think i will go mad. I am a single mum and have been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for 8 months. Hes a lovely guy, kind and caring. The problem is that when i met him he was working near me but still lived up north with his ex and son, they own a house together and had recently seperated. Unfortunately he lost his job soon after and although he had talked about moving out he was unable to do so for financial reasons. He comes down to see me most weeks, which is a 41/2 hr drive. He's still out of work and i get the feeling he now has no plans to move out of his home. He doesn't want to sell it as he will lose money as its not worth what he paid. When his ex found out he was seeing me she freaked out and doesn't want to be living with him anymore. She went to a solicitor to try and sort things out with him but he refuses to do anything. He is worried that if he moves out he will lose contact with his son. Although she has said to him she would let him stay in the house and she would stay at her mums so he could see his son whenever he wanted to. He can't get a place locally as he is trying to get a job near me, and if he does will rent a room. Even if he was to rent a room he still wants his home up north to be his home and come and go as he pleases, and stay there most weekends. I've tried to bring the subject up about him moving out but he doesn't want to talk about it. Its driving me crazy. I don't think there is anything between him and his ex as all his family know about me. I don't know if he staying for financial reasons or is he not ready to move on with his life. I'm hoping that when he gets a job he will think differently about things. Has anyone been in a similar situation? some days i think my life would be so much easier if we weren't together but its hard as i really love him.
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