should i let

[bex266]

Hiya I have a big problem should I let my son see his dad I was with him for 3 years when I became preg with my son I found out my sons dad don't have a visa he lied all this time so he wnt bke home to nigeria so I was left 3 mths preg when he went he was not here untill my son was 9 mths old he didn't wnt to be put on birth cert what was fine then he said he will see son 2 times a mth then it wnt to one the thing that's upset me is my son had swin flu jab and arm was painfull his dad was nt nice and hurt him so I told him togo away and don't come back did I do the right thing cause he don't do anythin for him no money no toys no food I do all for son who I love so much what should I do

[Marne]

How old is your son?

[bex266]

He's just turned 22mths

[EcoMouse]

What do you mean by 'wasn't nice and hurt him'? Were you there? What happened?

Why does he only want to see him so rarely? Why does he pay no maintenance?

From what you've said, I think you've done the right thing.

[Anniegetyourgun]

If you are not married and he is not named as the father on the birth certificate, he has no legal right to see his son.

I know it is good for a child to have access to both parents where possible, but not if he hurt the baby deliberately. Your son is better off without that kind of man in his life.