Low libido affecting my marriage

[naturelover]

Anyone got any advice?

The reasons for my current low libido are pretty obvious to me: I'm taking prozac, I'm breastfeeding, and I'm exhausted (up at least 3 times a night to breastfeed). I'm a SAHM with a baby and toddler and DH works long hours.

However my DH is feeling very rejected and un-lusted-after and I want to fix things so that we can enjoy the sex life we used to have. We're both realistic and value quality over quantity. A couple of times a week would be fine, but right now I'm struggling just with that. Sex has even been painful on a few occasions because of lack of arousal.

Most of the time, I just want to sleep.

[Malificence]

Sorry but it sounds like your DH is being unrealistic - a couple of times a week?

What with breastfeeding/being knackered etc. a couple of times a month would be the reality for most couples.

It will come back naturally with time and as you get less tired, him sulking will only cause resentment, he needs to back off and be more understanding.
As for painful sex, lube is your friend if you want to speed things along, there's nothing wrong with having sex occasionally when you're not in the mood, just for his benefit so to speak, but it's not fair for him to pressure you and expect sex whenever he wants it, regardless of how tired you are.

[naturelover]

He doesn't pressure me to have sex, he just genuinely feels hurt that I'm not more affectionate.

I just feel very unsexy/unsexual at the moment, the relentless demands of baby + toddler have sapped me of energy as well.

We do have sex sometimes when I'm not totally in the mood, it's nice though I can tell DH would enjoy it a lot more (we both would) if I was more enthusiastic.

Maybe I should post in Mental Health. I think maybe I need a different antidepressant as Prozac is really affecting me.