Back story - divorced exH 12 years ago, been single since, apart from this one relationship. Eight months in, I discover he wasn't single and had been living with his partner and her children for 10 years. I had no idea and was shocked, especially as we saw each other nearly every night and he stayed over when my kids were away at dad's. We also had a holiday together
I dumped him but we got back in touch a month later and he gave all the promises he would leave to be with me, he even told his poor partner, this went on for two months. I finally gave him a week to decide. He wanted to move in with me, I said no, he needed to have his own place. He decided to stay where he was, I moved on and cut contact. I am highly ashamed I didn't move on when I found out
Fast forward 5 years. He has since left original partner and married someone else. This has now broken down and he is single and finally in his own place
So he contacts me. I was polite, we had a conversation, I said no to meeting him but he could add me on facebook which he did. This meant his family could see me and they all knew about me from before. His mother and sister messaged me to say he was a fool, he is single now, sorry that they didn't get to know me before. I had spoken to his father during our relationship and he also told me I was the best thing to ever happen to his son (slightly odd family it would seem)
So now I'm thinking, I really did like/love him. We had a great time. I'd like to meet him again. My kids however hate him and were very disappointed and angry to know he has been in touch (20 - 15 year olds, they know about him being dishonest and a cheater)
Do I disregard my childrens feelings, do I disregard all the lies and give him a chance? I just don't know what to do. It doesn't help that I'm so very lonely and have just had a mini relationship with another arsehole that turned out badly
Sorry this is so long but I am so torn with what to do
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ExP, now single, back in contact - don't know what to do
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scaredoflove · 02/02/2010 17:43
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