My DH and DS are currently away staying with my MIL. I should be enjoying myself but instead very tearful sat on sofa with cat. I did go out yesterday and had a gorgeous day - went shopping at to cinema, on my own.
I was telling DH about my day on the phone and he said why didn't you have lunch with a friend, condescendingly. I said it's okay to have lunch on my own isn't it, but felt the wind had gone out of my sails and quickly ended the call.
Call me high maintenance but I just need a bit of encouragement to talk. Also inhibited by fact that MIL was overhearing - she has banned me from her house due to an emotional outburst over xmas hols - I was overwrought, pregnant and DH had again dismissed me with condescending words.
MIL thinks I need professional help. But she has been very judgmental and I feel DH has done nothing to back me when issues have arisen regarding how to raise DH. I make the decisions but DH does not back me in front of his mother - I am a decisive person but I can't handle the flak I get from MIL - she is very popular, makes critical comments of my SIL who is lovely (so am fairly sure she gossips about me in similar ways), and makes spiteful remarks amidst all the charm. I find her very cutting and judgmental. When I tell DH how I feel, he says it's me and that I am oversensitive - makes me feel so alone and desperate.
Thank you if you've read all through this. All I want is a hug or for DH to listen to me without judging. How can I salvage my dignity in this situation, stop being so needy and get on with life?
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In emotional turmoil over rel'ship with DH
confuseddd · 01/02/2010 16:42
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