End of relationship and confused

[MaggieMay1]

I really don't know what to do right now.
I have two children and have been separated from their dad since 2001.
Five years ago I met someone who lives 120 miles away. Initially we talked about moving in together at some point. Over the years it has become apparent that neither of us want to leave where we live.
We have had many discussions about this over the years and almost separated last year because of it. We came to the conclusion that we should try again and accept that this is our lot and carry on as we were. I had got used to this idea now, and am quite happy to have a 'living apart together' relationship, rather than not have him in my life at all.
Towards the end of last year I became pregnant accidentally. My partners reaction was instant, he most definintely did not want children (he hasn't any) As a mother, I was not as clear in my mined as to what to do, but given our situation it seemed more practical to have an abortion, which is what I did.
Since the termination I have been going through all manner of emotions. Over Christmas my partner came for the week and I felt so much resentment towards him, I know this is hormones and to be expected, but he took it quite badly and when he went home
we decided to have a break from talking for a while.
After a few weeks we spoke, but he just got very upset and kept repeating that he didn't know what to do. This went on for a while until I began to think that by him saying this, he meant he wanted me to end it because he couldn't face doing it himself.
I now have the dilemma of telling my children. My youngest, who had known my ex partner for half of his life so far, was very fond of him and I know he will be so very upset when I tell him.
Part of me thinks we don't stand a chance, another part of me doesn't want to give up. But he seems to be accepting our relationship is over and has told me that he's not what I need and that I deserve much better. I know if I try and talk to him he will just cry and say that he doesn't know what to do over and over.
I don't know what else I can do.

[diddl]

I think you have to bite the bullet & be the adult tbh.

If you cared enough one of you would have moved and he wouldn´t have insisted on an abortion,imo.

[Ladyscratt]

This is not how a realtionship should be really is it

[sparkybint]

Hardly one to give advice here as I'm a relationship disaster area but him saying he's not what you need and that you deserve much better should be all you have to hear. He's asking you to finish it because it's easier for him, as you've rightly surmised.

I'm so sorry you had to go through an abortion and long distance relationships are
terribly hard especially when you have kids (know from experience). It seems very clear that this relationship has run its course and you just have to tell yourself life will be simpler and more peaceful without him around.

[Ladyscratt]

Go find a nice sexy hunky chap who wants to spend time with you who might want more children (if you do)and who will eventually move in with you (if thats what you want)

Or take time out to do what you want spend time with your kids and have some fun cos it all sound like it has been crap for some time TBH. Cut him loose and fulfill your own needs now.