My dp started a new job last April in a managerial position. Last summer i started to feel a bit funny regarding one of his younger female employees, nothing concrete at all just a gut feeling.....Since then there have been several incidents that have rung big alarm bells but i have had no hard evidence and i guess in isolation they could be innocent but all togeher i am now really worried....I am not sure how best to put it all down so i guess i shall just do bulllet points
1.I arrived at his work unannounced heavily pregnant with dc4, he was very reluctant to give me a hug (hadnt seen him since the day before), we were outside at this point so not infront of staff, and he looked over his shoulder towards where she was standing
2.He picked me up from hospital after birth of dc4 and called work on the way home, he spoke to this girl and was pretty over familiar, and refered to her as 'darlin'
3.I knew he was giving one of the lads from work a lift home but he didnt mention that he was also giving this girl a lift too-he let slip something and when i questioned him he said about it.
$.After incident 3 i asked him why he didnt tell me he was giving her a lift home (admittedly i was rather post pregnancy hormonal) and implied that there was something inappropriate goin on-he went MENTAL .Oh and a few days after this incident he came home and said that she wasnt right for the company and he was keeping an eye on things with a view to 'managing her out'
4.Soemtimes he gets in up to 2 hrs after finishing work with vague reasons as to why (not always on the night he gives her a lift but frequently)
5.Whenever i go into work this girl blatantly ignores us but when i took dc4, in at his request, she gushed over her, and TOTALLY ignored me, like i wasnt even there.
6.He has pics of the work crimbo do on his phone which she just happens to be in all of them. theya are not of her but she is in them all IYKWIM
7.He has been stroppy and withdrawn, parcticualr unkind to ds1 (who has special needs) and blames in on work
I got a suggestive picture message of his bum cheeks this morning which he hasnt done since we first got together with some text underneather about how he was missing me today. The wording on it didnt sound right and something meade me check the rota to see if this girl was in today....she isnt
They dont look good do they? Or have i just totally lost it? I'm sat here feeling sick and shaking.........things have been really iffy since christmas when he proposed and i dont know whether i am just looking for trouble because i am paranoid and insecure or if he is doing what i think he is.
Have been checking his phone now and then but nothing dodgy-although i know he would delete.....
Dont know what to do
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curvychick · 25/01/2010 13:34
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