Was friends with a woman for 9 yrs, she was my closest friend & we confided everything & helped each other out with everything.
Anyway, 2009 was a very traumatic year for me. I split from exh after 11yrs in horrific circumstances. In the last three mts of '09 my MIL that I was very close to died. Two weeks later my granny died (I wasn't very close but still hard to see my father so upset), a few weeks later my closest aunt who was only 48 died in horrific circumstances and to top it all off my only brother died very tragically on 22nd of Dec. My friend would have know my aunt & brother very well.
About 10 days before my brother died, I had been trying to push myself to start moving on with my life and went on a date with someone that both my friend and I knew very well. He is a close friend of her h. Spoke to friend several times before going on date, asking her what she thought. She thought it was great & said go for it.
After I'd met him about twice she told me that she found the whole thing very akward as he was friendly with her h. She & h have had a very difficult marriage, always fighting & always on verge of splitting up. Anyway, she said she felt I had gone over to her h's side & that this was going to affect our friendship. I tried contacting her to try and resolve things but she didn't return my call.
Five days later my brother died, she came to the funeral & we spoke as normal so I thought we were back on track. I never heard from her after that. Last week I rang her a few times as she has some stuff I need back. Eventually I got a text from her on Fri (she never texts), trying to organise to leave the stuff somewhere. I text back saying I would meet her tomorrow morning if she was free. I haven't heard back from her but I am imagining she will try to avoid meeting me. I wanted to meet up & leave her know how much she has hurt me by her actions.
Should I just leave it go at this stage or should I try to get her to at least recognise that her behaviour was very hurtful? I am terrible at any type of confrontation or nastiness, I'd normally run a mile but this time it's different she was one of the closest people to me & she caused me terrible pain at what was already a very painful time for me. I don't think I could ever forgive her for this or move forward but I just want to put a bit of closure on it for myself i.e. stand up for myself in some way.
Sorry this is so long but I couldn't explain it properly without giving the background history.
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startingovernow · 24/01/2010 18:33
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