A married friend of mine is conducting an affair with a man she knows has a partner and child, but won't admit to it being an affair as although they are having sex, it's a casual thing and (she claims) they don't want anything else from each other (ie. emotional support, feelings, love, relationship etc) ... I don't approve, she knows my thoughts on this but that's by the by.
After every time they meet, she spends hours picking apart their conversations, asking me constantly what I think he meant by what he said etc. I want to scream at her that he's using her, she's just an amusement for him and can't she see she's developing feelings for him that she totally denies she has. This weeks snippet is: he said he thought when they first started meeting it was madness, now he thinks it's fun.
She is taking this to mean he has developed feelings for her that he didn't have before and I know, having known her for many, many years, that she's hoping this is the case.
What can I say to her to convince her he's just having fun and that this means nothing? I love her dearly and don't want to hurt her feelings or make her feel like a fool, but I would rather be the one to do that than let him do it to her. Should I butt out and not risk becoming the bad guy in all this or try harder to protect my friend?
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Bibithree · 20/01/2010 16:02
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