So, a couple of years ago I was in a group of friends - 4 of us, had been friends since school. Topic of our discussions was invariably 'the one who wasn't there' or people we knew at school and what they were up to and general slagging off of said individual. Usual bitchy girly thing?
Anyway, I moved away, met a man who later became my husband and stopped wanting to see my 'friends' all culminating in a big blow up over a hen night when i was 14 weeks pregnant, feeling lumpy and hormonal I didn't attend (longer story but no real point).
Anyway, I've since moved back to the area and through toddler groups met friends of friends, one got back in contact by text (spoken over phone, but no meeting), am now in contact with another (small town, there's no hiding), have spoken to her today and she has asked me to meet her for a drink next week.
The thing is, I'm all fat and lumpy now since having my babies (youngest 14 weeks) and image is everything to this group and this is sort of why I gave up on the friendship last time and I don't really have the time or inclination to go out socialising at the moment but feel that if I don't I look like the initial falling out was all my fault. Another thing is that this is such a small town, you can't really fall out with people, you will always bump into someone (e.g. the reason the second friend got in contact was that I bumped into her mum in a shop and she said that she would tell her to give me a call).
Don't really know what to do? Don't want them to see the frumpy version of myself, but unless I manage to drop two dress sizes in the next weeks I'm buggered.
Am I being silly?
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This is more or less exactly what I didn't want to happen.
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biscuittplease · 19/01/2010 14:46
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