When you were a baby did you parents ever play catch on the stairs

[FabIsGoingToBeFabIn2010]

With you?

[TheresnowDragonHere]

I have no idea - I can't remember being a baby.

But no, I rather suspect that they didn't.

[FlamingoBingo]

Why? Do you mean 'catch the baby'? I doubt it very much - sounds like a very bizarre thing to do.

[llareggub]

eh?

[EccentricaGallumbits]

what one at the top, one at the bottom?

um. no.

although mther did once drop me down stairs, top to bottom.

[FabIsGoingToBeFabIn2010]

Mine used to throw me up and down the stairs to each other. I am wondering now if they were trying to get rid of me.

[EccentricaGallumbits]

all the way? how old?

[FabIsGoingToBeFabIn2010]

Yep, all the way when I was pretty small. My parents are weird.

[BertieBotts]

Yes, I think I would say that is unusual behaviour with a small baby! How did you find out?

[Anniegetyourgun]

When I was a baby my father stumbled at the top of the stairs and almost fell. He then proceeded to demonstrate to my mother how the accident had nearly happened, while she kept saying "Put the baby down first, then show me" but he carried on "No just look, see, this is how I caught her with one hand while..." and wouldn't stop until she had seen him re-enact the whole incident - with her eyes OPEN!

My parents had a long and mostly happy marriage, but she never forgave him for that one.

No, playing catch on the stairs with a small baby is kind of, er, unusual. They must have had a cast-iron confidence in their own and each other's skill. Or they were just barking.

[MintyCan]

NO they were trying to get rid of you.

When you were older did you go down the stairs on your tummy face first. We used to do that. I often wonder if our parents encouraged it so that we would break our necks and they would be free.

[EccentricaGallumbits]

but? what? but? what if???????

[MintyCan]

We also used to slide down the stairs in sleeping bags.

[FabIsGoingToBeFabIn2010]

My nana told me. She saw them do it. I know they didn't want me (dad left as soon as he could and mum dumped me at social services office) but this is a bit drastic.

[BoysAreLikeDogs]

perhaps they are circus folk?

[MintyCan]

Seriously ? not as a game ? They threw you down the stairs

[EccentricaGallumbits]

don't know about wanting to do away with you.

maybe just bloody stupid, with no parenting skills or intuition at all.

and probably a bloody good thing they didn't carry on 'looking after' you, otherwise you might not be here now.

[BertieBotts]

We used to slide down the stairs in sleeping bags too - pretty harmless really, but headfirst is

[FabIsGoingToBeFabIn2010]

Definitely not a game. She used to leave me on my own with people I had never met before too. Can't think why she wants to see me now.

[MintyCan]

I was imagining that they were sort of passing you down maybe three steps. If they actually were throwing you down the whole stairs then as Eccentrica says "just bloody stupid" sound right.

[MintyCan]

Bertie it was the 70s if you didn't got headfirst you were wimp

Fab sorry about that, are you going to see her ?

[StarExpat]

That is so horrible. Dangerous and stupid of them.
Do you have a supportive dh/dp now?

[StarExpat]

about going down stairs headfirst. We weren't even allowed to run or even walk quickly, down the stairs my parents were weird in the very opposite way to yours, fab. So sorry to hear that.

[Mamazon]

i would just be gratefull she left you and move on fab.

[FabIsGoingToBeFabIn2010]

Good God no way am I going to see her. I have been to a solicitor and forked out hundreds of pounds to make sure she can't get access to my kids and she will never see them or me as long as DH or I are alive.

When I was at my therapy last week we talked a bit about her giving me up. The therapist said it was her choice and I was finding it hard to get my head around it being her fault. I have always known she had a very difficult childhood with her parents and step mother but the therapist said they are reasons, not excuses and she chose to give me up.

She is a very weird person. Saying how much she misses me and then how awful I am. That she did everything for me and I will never be happy until I realise that.

I haven't see her or talked to her for 17 years.