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Really finding it difficult to forgive my mum for this...

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red37 · 18/12/2009 13:16

I have not spoke to my mum for nearly 2 weeks, I have just recently seperated from H for his alcohol problem, anyhow I thought I confided in my mum and told her some things that were going on in my life atm and she published my H's drinking problem on Facebook...I am really disappointed in her, any advice would be helpful

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DoesntChristmasDragOn · 18/12/2009 13:18

Did you specifically tell her not to share the information?

you need to tell her that you are disappointed in her. Silence won't help.

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Iklboodolphtherednosereindeer · 18/12/2009 13:18

That's pretty unforgivable. I'd be absolutely livid if it was me. That kind of information is not for Facebook. How would she like it if you posted something personal about her?

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SleighBelleDameSansMerci · 18/12/2009 13:19

Ouch. Not really something she should have done. Is there any possibility she's so angry with him that she did it to hurt him/protect you (if you see what I mean)?

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red37 · 18/12/2009 13:28

This info went out to all other family members and close family friends and yes I was absolutely livid...this info wasnt for FB, the trust has completely gone, not sure if I could confide in her again, btw the status was up for 9 hours before it was removed

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DoesntChristmasDragOn · 18/12/2009 15:43

Did you specifically tell her not to share the information?

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2rebecca · 18/12/2009 16:15

To me it's obvious that this isn't something you discuss, especially publishing it on the internet, that's just gossiping. I'd be angry, but would tell her I'm angry and that in future she should just post stuff about her life and her problems on her facebook page and leave your stuff out of it.

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tinalane · 18/12/2009 18:34

No wonder you're so angry, that must have hurt.

Does she know how you feel about her doing that?

Has she been a help to you about the problems you've gone through?

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ConnorTraceptive · 18/12/2009 18:42

I think it goes without saying doesn't it that you don't want you partners drink problem splashed on face book? I don't think you have to specifically tell her not to share that info.

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verytellytubby · 18/12/2009 20:34

Bloody hell. That's outrageous. Phone her and tell her.

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ineedalifelaundry · 18/12/2009 21:51

Hi red, I remember you from the support for partners of addicts thread. Sorry to hear this is affecting other relationships, and at a time when you need support from your mum more than ever.

Have you told her how hurt you are?

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red37 · 19/12/2009 00:39

other than this I have a great support from my family...my two sisters are fantastic, on e of my sisters has been through the same with her dh so we can relate to each other, I confided in her as I am in some debt because of his drinking, I felt that she exposed his drinking on FB out of anger for him.
The status remark was

"My daughter (my name) has a hubby who drinks too much and doesnt pay his bills."

In one sentence she exposed my private life,I cant believe this is happening

Hi ineed...hows things going with you? I will catch up with you on the support thread