Hi All
I post occasionally but am a regular reader but purposely kept away these last few weeks.
My H been making other things take priority over his family recently and with lots happening these last few months it ended in us separating for an agreed 3-6 month period whilst we work on our marriage.
We both agreed that everything has happened so fast we have our 3 year wedding anniversity coming up before xmas and a 2 year old DD. We started not treating each other with the respect we deserve.
To cut a long story short I found out that he used his one day off this week to tell us and his family that he was working on a Sunday (he does work alternate sundays) and hardly seen my DD on his agreed time and took her to his parents. Dressed all in suit and tie like normal he dropped her off at mine after "work".
I found out that he never worked but arranged to see a prostitute. At the time I didnt know who or what the person was but he kept on telling me I am crazy and he would never sleep with anyone.
By the end of the night I googled a mobile number and found results here. He then finally admitted that he was going to meet her but felt guilty but did meet her 6 months ago. Then 2 days later it was 4 months ago and then 3 months ago.
But after all the upset and betrayel I feel my main question was why because if he was that desparate then it meant that I am not doing something write for him to go out and pay for it. He obviously asked me if he ended up doing with a colleague or someone else would it have been any worse or better. His reasoning for it was the fact that he needed her to do things that I would never do and it was more like a business transaction than anything else.
I know in my hearts of hearts that I would now never take him back and every night I break down not for what he has done to me or why he did it (other than the fact that I also keep on picturing that together) but what we are doing to my DD that already looks a bit confused having to suddenly sleep at daddy's house than at mommy's house.
Sorry didnt mean to make it this long... But would this mean it was all my fault. I refuse to take the blame for him breaking our vows and if he loved me enough he should have mentioned that he wanted a little more excitement and as a couple we should have worked on it together.
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What is worse to pay for it or to sleep with someone from work, friend,etc
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canonlytakesomuchmore · 07/12/2009 01:57
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