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Ok I am an oldie, i remember tableclothlady grapes in supermarket wigandrobe and loads of other stuff. i know its friday and i am somewhat breaking the rules as this is not about bumsex.
i am a tad and i suppose a bit inexperienced having only had sex with 3 blokes and i am late 40's and have four DS
having been single for a while after the difficult end of a long term relationship.
I have been seeing someone for 5 months now.
we see each other nearly every day/night
i cant remember back to the begining of my previous relationship and also i guess i may be wearing rose tinted specs too.
trouble is we can't keep our hands off each other, i wouldn't trust myself to behave in the dark of the cinema.
i have never known such mutual passion, when we do get to spend the day/night together the desire and passion blows us away, i have had more orgasms in the last five months than in my whole life and i am enjoying it all and so is he.
but is this normal at 5 months? should we have settled down a bit by now?
is there a danger my fanjo will get friction burn?
are we sex addicts?

yes, you are sex addicts you dirty bastards !!

now stop showing off and go away



btw, go for it, girl !!

Who says it should have calmed down by 5 months! I am two years 3 months down the line with DP & we haven't calmed down yet!! (this is coming from someone who would have been happy to have no sex at all with her ex!!)

i love your name! i am not showing off, just want to know if its normal to feel/behave like this? does it happen to everyone and i have missed out until now?

DP and I have been together for two and a half years.

We have sex every day, sometimes more than once a day. It's great. totally normal.

Enjoy it. You pervert.

<uses thread to shamelessly brag>

Thankyou PC, i spent the last two years of my last relationship with no sex at all, so am i just playing catch up?
i didn't know it could be this good.

Dp spent the last eighteen months of his last relationship celibate. I was single for a year before I met him. So perhaps there's something in your catch up theory

I think the term "sex addict" is normally used when the desire for sex becomes destructive to your general life...eg if you needed to have sex with a colleague or two at lunchtime because you couldn't wait until dp finished work

no i don't want sex with anyone else, only him, there have only been 5 times when we have been together when we havent had sex and they were the first 5 times we saw each other.

Nope, not a sex addict. You are in the first honeymoon blush of a new relationship, so enjoy!

DH and I were very much the same when we first got together, it's normal and awesome

Lol, perfectly normal I think - enjoy it

I've been seeing someone for the same length of time, we only get to see each other a couple of times a week but we've never not had sex when we've seen each other

If we saw each other more we'd have sex more and a tad

I guess it settles down eventually

I also had 3 years celibate and don;t ever remember it being this good with anyone.

Maybe it's an age thing? I feel way more relaxed about it than I've ever done in any other relationship and that seems to help.

God no, totally normal, enjoy it. We had sex at least once a day for a couple of years. Then I had a baby but anyway! Shag away

thats a valid point, i am probably more relaxed about it in a cannot get PG kind of way, and i suppose i am old enough to know what i like/want and the kids finally sleep throu the night.

Shagtastic!

i'm not talking once a day or once a night, mostly 3/4 times a night.

Who knows - why do you care? Just enjoy it.

Fwiw DH and I have been together for ages and it's the only long term relationship I've been in where the desire for sex hasn't disappeared. In fact I'm far more up for it now then when I was ten years younger. I think there's something about getting older, relaxing and knowing what works.

I'm having sex right now

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If he is capable of sex 3/4 times a night at that age, I'm VERY jealous indeed, unless you've got yourself a young stud.

We only usually manage twice a day when on holiday!

I'm still ready to rip off my hubby's clothes after 27 years and sex has got better with age, most definitely.

Use plenty of lube and you won't have to worry about friction either.

Enjoy.

prior to having children DH and were like this - even both working FT different shifts we used to average about 10 times a week

it is a distant memory now - lol!

Enjoy - it lasted quite a few years for us

I am curious to know if you would describe yourself as in love with him?

so long as your enjoying it what does it matter?

you lucky lucky bitch

he is the same age as me so not a toyboy.
i am sure that i love him and he is sure that he loves me too, we are making plans for the future together.
it all feels very right but i worry that my judgement is somewhat clouded by all the hands on stuff, if the love making wasn't so bloody amazing would we still feel in love? or is it in fact just pure lust, in which case it might wear off. am i confusing the two things?