Advice please re stag party

[birdsong]

Hello don't post very often but would appreciate a view. Over last 2 yrs dh and I have have had relationship problems. We split up for a few months and 6mths later "something" was going on between him and a colleage ( Ifound text messages but it has been forever denied). Anyway consequently I am slowly rebuilding my trust.
Anyway bil is on 2nd marriage and lives 50 odd miles away and arranged a night out with his friends and invited dh .( we rarely see this couple) I felt uncomfortable but realized to take our relationship forward I need to trust him and was fine, but now arrangements have changed and bil and wife to be are having joint stag/hen bbq at their house which will basically be a massive party and I feel this is different to a lads night out . We had crap day arguing about it yesterday which ended in him sayng he just wouldn't go and obviously making me feel bad about it . Am I being unreasonable ?

[Mosschops30]

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[birdsong]

I said this to dh and he reluctanty rang back to ASK if I could go he said bil hummed and haared a bit but said it was ok. I will not know any one there though atall and not seen his wilfe to be for at least 2 years. dh and bil just don't see each other atall. What peed me off is also that dh could have said yes it is ok for you to come rather than making me feel uncomfortable about his brothers reaction.

[Mosschops30]

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