I just don't know what to do anymore.
DH and me just cannot stand each other. Everything I do is wrong (from the food I cook to the way I organise myself to the clothes I have for the kids to the way I go about running the house) and everything I say is wrong.
He says that I lie and twist and turn and that talking to me is like talking to a politician - but I feel that he has made me extremely defensive.
He says I'm negative, a failure with no ambition and that I'm dragging us down as a family. He wishes he'd never married me - he just fancied me sexually when we met but he now realises it was no basis to marry somebody and have children with them and that next time he would go for somebody with brains.
I read some peoples posts here and think oh he's not bad in other ways - for instance he wants me to have a social life and a career - he loves it if I go out - he's not jealous - he's not into porn or anything sleazy - he would never cheat on me and he's not an alcoholic or into drugs
He is under a lot of pressure being self employed and we've been in a financial nightmare for a long time.
FWIW - I am disorganised. I can be a bit messy. I can be defensive. I can bury my head over things sometimes, I am a bit depressed and down at the moment. I've lost my identity - I'm a SAHM with no money.
But I'm a good person. I'm laid back and kind and caring and funny. I love my kids and feel blessed to have them.
Next year he is going to start working away 4 days a week and I cannot wait. It's just at the moment I don't know if my sanity can take it until then but unfortunately I have no other option but to sit it out
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