Hi all,
My DP and I have been together for just over 9 months. However, after several short relationships, being already in my 30s (what I mean with this is, I am not an immature 20-year-old falling for the first man that smiles at me), I do believe he is the right person for me. He has been married before (7 year marriage, no kids) and used to own a house with his ex-wife.
Very recently we have decided to move to a different city within the same country, and we have bought a beautiful house together. He moved in first a month ago, and now I've joined him. Before that, I used to stay at his house most nights, but I still kept my rental, which gave me a sense of independence. I have always been a very independent person and was used to having my stuff, my individual bank account, no debt, lots of savings and my own personal space. All of that has just changed, of course, and I will have to get used to sharing everything, and living off his salary while I look for a new job in this city. I am sure sharing my life with my wonderful DP will make all that worthwhile. However, I am a bit worried about doing the right things and getting this relationship to work. My DP is a sweet and understanding person who has gone through hell in his first marriage. I would like to be a person he is proud of, and make this work.
There is an endless tide of experience (good and bad) in MN, and I know I could benefit immensely from all your opinions. I would like to ask you for the things that make cohabitation work: what things should I try to do? What things to absolutely avoid? What would you have done differently if only you could go back to those first days living together?
Any opinion/experience, no matter how good or bad, will be highly appreciated.
Thank you all in advance!
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Your tips for a successful cohabitation, please?
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aurynne · 02/11/2009 03:38
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