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I'm new to this site and am at my wits end with my DP of 2 years. I'm also 13+2 pg with my first at the grand age of 42, DP is 40 and in the armed forces.
At the beginning of this year I accidentally found evidence of his hotmailing other women and getting emails from dating and swinging sites. I was absolutely disgusted and felt like my world had been wiped away from under my feet. I confronted him and he denied everything. I then kept and eye on things on the computer and he has deleted a lot of stuff but I did find he has multiple profiles on sites and multiple email addresses. Last month I even found explicit photos of his private parts that he'd emailed to other women last year, and emails he's sent to other women as recently as August this year. After confonting him again his excuse was it's all a joke with his armed forces friends and I wouldn't believe the things they get up to. I was incredibly upset and think this excuse is all a load of bullshit quite frankly.
He's been away all week on a course at a base elsewhere in the country and today I've found that as soon as he was back yesterday he was online and emailed another women called Natalya to say thanks for her message and he hopes to hear from her soon!! Last night he also didn't come to bed until 1.45am this morning after consuming 11 cans of beer (his usual is at least 6-8 per night).
There's tonnes of other stuff but it would take me an eternity to write. I don't know what to do. I love him sometimes but a lot of the time these days I don't. His temper and language when he's had a few beers (most nights) is absolutely vile and I'm scared about confronting him again.
On the positive side, we live in a house that is 100% mine so I can actually tell him to leave.
Should I confront him about his online infidelity and drinking and say it's got to stop for the sake of our baby?
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DP emailing other women from online dating sites and excessive drinking
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onebyoneNOTfourbyfour · 23/10/2009 14:39
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