I've got a group of friends...5 of us. Let's called them a,b,c,d and me! (lol)
I'm much closer to a and b but still good friends with c and d.
C and D have had HUGE row with A and B and really upset them. C and D have upset me too but not as much.
We've decided to part ways and I said I didn't want to fall out with anyone but my loyalties are with A and B. However, I still occasionally send and receive polite texts/emails from C and D.
A and B are now putting a lot of pressure on me saying that me retaining any sort of friendship with C and D is disloyal and hurtful towards them.
I should say that C and D were really horrible but I've been friends with them for 20yrs, I can't cope with conflict, bad feeling in my life and it's easier for me to live with myself knowing that should I meet them in the street I can still say hello.
A and B are the kind of people who when they get hurt, they get mad, stay mad and never forgive. However, they are both wonderful friends to me and I'd be lost without them.
If anyone has stayed with this long enough to understand, what do you think?
If someone upset your friend, would you fall out with them too?
If it was my family i'd definately fall out with them, A and B say same rules apply if it's your close friends.
argh - whole thing is sooo stressful!
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if someone upsets someone you know, should you fall out with them too?
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starbaby · 15/10/2009 20:30
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