What the hell is wrong with me?

[emogedden]

I want a long term relationship yeah but after about 3 or 4 weeks I get bored and want out.

The bloke could be perfect....it does not make a difference. What is wrong with me?

Why have I no staying power?

I have met a wonderful man and after 3 and a half weeks I am like ummmmmm yeahhh ok....the fireworks and BOOM you get when you have met someone has gone.

Am I man lol?

[FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite]

Nope, you are not a man. You sound like me.

[emogedden]

Sorry that was supposed to say 'Am I male'.

[emogedden]

Fluffy............wtf......help lol

[FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite]

[emogedden]

Come on then Fluff tell me what happens with you.

[FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite]

Did you see a bad relationship between your parents?

[FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite]

I just dump them, it's always after a month, I get sick of them. They start to annoy me. It's really bad.

[emogedden]

God yeah my dad hit my mum and I went onto having the same.

[emogedden]

Yes! Annoyance!

[FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite]

That's the problem. My dad was an alcoholic, my parents used to argue every night. I remember listening to them, crying under the covers. If you don't see a good relationship you don't know what one is. It frightens you.

[emogedden]

Is that the same as boredom?

[FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite]

yup. It's the same. they mask each other.

[emogedden]

Then I need to get out of the circle of hate.

[Alibabaandthe40nappies]

I used to be like this, and then I met DH. Never managed a relationship longer than 6 weeks prior to him.

One day it really will be the right person and the annoyance won't happen.

[FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite]

I'm trying, it's really hard!!

[emogedden]

Ali so your saying he is not 'the one'?

[FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite]

It doesn't sound like it. You need one with the patience of a saint. Take it slow!!

[emogedden]

Slow? He has asked me to move in!

Ohhhhhhhhh that is why I am freaking out.

[FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite]

ARGHHH!!!! And it's been a month????

That really would freak me out.

[emogedden]

Aye but it is more..........dum dum da dummmmm marriage stuff.

[Alibabaandthe40nappies]

Emo DH proposed after 5 days and we moved in together after 2 months.

I'm not sure that the fireworks should go as early as 3 weeks though - although you might just be experiencing the absence of fear!

Sorry I am being no help here. Is he annoying you?

[FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite]

Ok. Do you like him or just sick of the sight of him??

being together alot won't help.

[SolidGoldBrass]

Erm, why do you think you want a longterm relationship? They are not compulsory. It's perfectly OK to not actually want one and being single and/or having casual relationships doesn't make you a freak or a failure.
And a man who wants to move in with you after 3 weeks is quite possibly a cocklodger or indeed a nasty little shit of a narcissist. Does he say you're the only one who understands him, by any chance?

[emogedden]

Ali not annoying as such. It's oh it's hard to explain.

It's like ummm ok....It is like we have been together for 4 years instead a month.

[emogedden]

What the hell is a cocklodger?