Hi, I need some help. My partner of 18 years (husband for 7 - as in year itch) has left me and my two children (2 and 4) and I don't know which way to turn.
He initially left 6 months ago, saying he feels we are just friends and that he wants more and - get this - has met someone at work he is keen on.
Over the past six months my life has been hell - he has come back to me FOUR times, saying he's made a mistake and wants a chance to fight for his family, and I took him back because I do love him and want to try every avenue to keep our family together.I guess I thought he was going through some kind of confused crisis and would see that home and family and me is where he belongs and I wanted to support him through it.
A few weeks back he dumped me again, saying he has been seeing this woman, that he thinks he loves her and they have even spoke of moving in together and having children!
I am devastated. The logical side of me says he is a shit, let him go and maybe I will be happier with someone else, but I just can't let go. I keep hoping he will change his mind, even just so as I can tell him to do one and get some control back in my life.
My life is unbearable - he comes a few times a week to see the children and I can't bear to watch him play happy families knowing what he has chosen for our family. He has agreed to a divorce without even blinking, but still looks confused and is still wearing his wedding ring.
I'm depressed, aching all over, not eating or sleeping very well and desperately worried for my and my children's future - all I can see is bleakness. Our marriage wasn't a bad one at all, although I admit the spark had gone over the past couple of years while the children were tiny. But I thought this was to be expected and that with a bit of work we would get it back, but he says he does'nt want to work at it.
I would like to hear from anyone who has been in this position, get some words of encouragement and some idea of when I can expect to 'get over it'. I want to get some self esteem back and be an independant happy woman, and ultimately meet someone who adores me. I'm not that bad - fairly pretty, gsh and intelligent and I feel I was a really supportive, loving wife and friend and can't believe this is happening - it seems obscene.
Also, I am considering calling this slapper to find out what kind of woman can take a man away from a wife and children? Is that a really bad idea?
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Seven year itch
Cheryllou · 24/09/2009 11:01
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