I met DP in 2006, after a month of being together he went and had our initials tattoed on his arm, then after 2 months he took me and my ds on holiday, in between this we moved in together. He has never given me cause to doubt him yet i suffer terribly with doubt and insecurities.
He basically goes to work and comes home, he has never had friends so doesn't go anywhere unless we go as a family. I on the other hand have a large circle of friends who we often go and see, and I have been out with them and stayed out overnight....well before i had ds2.
When we met we were both still married, i was waiting for my divorce to come through. (Which it did a month after we met). 3 years on he is still not divorced...he was living in a out of the UK in the country where his ex wife lives and he has asked her numerous times to send him the marriage certificate, and full address so they can get divorced. She refuses.
Anyway I digress.
As i say we go to a lot of places, meet a lot of people that I know etc. We have just come back from a friend of mine where we stayed for 3 days. When we got home, after a few hours he asked if I wanted to go back for another couple of days. I instantly got a sinking feeling inside, especially when i looked at the pics i took and see how he was laughing and joking in them and felt...he just doesn't act like that with me. The pics are of us sitting round a table playing games he is sitting next to my friend while i am next to her husband.....We all were laughing and joking around so why I am bothered i don't know!
it has got to the point where I am always getting this sinking feeling and i really hate it!!!!
He is not the kind of guy who goes out without me or wants to he goes to and from work and yet I am feeling so bad. I know part of it is the shit relationships i had before...ds1's father constantly cheated on me, and my ex husband basically used me to gain something for himself and then left me.
But DP is so unlike these and yet it is him who is feeling the brunt of my insecurities....what can i do???
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Its not him it is ME advice needed please!!!
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HateFeelingThisWay · 29/08/2009 08:55
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