Well it's our wedding blessing and night do.. we got married abroad like pretty much everyone else this summer.
Just had a huge row with DH as he was going to ring his mum and see if she'd have DS for a couple of hours while we get things sorted. I said no. I had to hand in loads of essays yesterday as I had an extension over the summer. I needed to spend time on the work as I hadn't had any time since I have a 1yo. We asked her to have DS for a couple of hours and she said no, as usual, because she was looking after her sister's grandson and then she wanted to go to the pub.
My mum ended up having to look after DS so that I could meet the deadline, so she was then up all night decorating our wedding cake as she is a cake maker/decorator and we are having sponge so she had to leave it until yesterday.
In the row I called DH's mum and alcoholic, he threw insults about my family, I threw insults about his. But mostly his mum because she will always pick her sister's GS and drink over our DS. She's not an alcoholic she is just a generally selfish person.
She is always saying she wants DS for the day and whinges on that she never sees him, but she would never come to our house- we live one street away. If we ever ask if she wants to have him, or if we need a babysitter, she says no.
She took him out last week for a couple of hours. We said when will she be back and she said 'when I feel like that'. She always calls DS 'a little shit' when he's pretty much the best behaved baby ever. But obviously he has needs like other babies, and depends on whoever is looking after him.
It is rare that we ask her to have him but she almost always says no.
So DH and I are barely on speaking terms, and he's upset that I don't like his mum. It's our blessing this afternoon, and we renew our vows and stuff, and then our big party tonight.
How can I make things better? And is it her or me?
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TotallyAndUtterlyPaninied · 22/08/2009 09:17
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