DH and I are both working f/t and I have just started new job which involved massive change of environment and also shift work - which I am finding hard to adjust to. For the second time this week a silly row escalated into a full blown screaming match where he swears and calls me allsorts of names and tells me what a nightmare I am to live with/be around and that I am the cause of all his anger and bad moods and he wouldnt get cross if I was nicer, calmer, more supportive of him etc etc.
Whats really done my head in is that after his major screaming fit on sat night (was so hurt and upset I had to stop the car we were in to calm down) I decided to take the pressure of him this week (he has v stressful job) so have done all bills, cooking, cleaning etc. Last night he started critiscing how I had handling one of the bills we had so I got pissed off and it escalated into a row. Again. I told him that He jsut doesnt seem to realise that I am under pressure too and have lots to cope with aswell, his response to that was that i 'have an anger problem' and am a 'f*ing cow and I deserve to be called names. He then said he would only apologise for calling me names, 'depending on how I apologised to him'.
Am totally fed up and feel bullied, but he always blames me for his moods/temper. We have 1 DS who woke up last night during our screaming row :-( dont know what to do anymore.
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DH thinks I 'deserve to be called names' (bit long)
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bumpers · 07/08/2009 07:57
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