< sharp intake of breath >

delusion? Denial? I just don't know which comes first anymore.

Pan - no he ain't

I agree with AnyFucker - the singer is a total hottie!

Delusion - he is gay.

Guitar in the band, but he also plays piano and violin.

He and his brother (also in the band) are very talented musicians.

What does your soon-to-be-DH play?

That's the singer. I'll tell him you're swooning and his head will explode with bigness.



DP is quite sensitive about his lack of hair, bless.

Ha, he has more hair than a lot of 29 year olds I know - I knew a guy who started university with worse male-pattern baldness than that!

reality, your bloke is cute, but who is the one next to him ? < swoon >

Good grief, Fish, you really are a mizzog sometimes.

He is gawjuss and I am great.

<gavel>

he has no hair! how is he 29 fgs?

SO is this just a thread where we tell you hwo great you are?!

I just looked at that pic, Reality - must say, I heartily approve

Tis only one picture, don't let him get bigheaded!

He is a whole FOUR years older than me. I am young. YOUNG I say .

He is preening at being told he looks 29

I thought he looked about 29ish in that pic? And I think I did imagine he was older than you. (get that in before you start asking if I think you are old )

He's a sexy beastie for sure.



He's 33, how old did you think he would be? Did you think he was my sugar daddy?

Hey, have seen green t shirt pic. He looks younger than I was expecting (no idea why though). Good jawline

barf

Thank you for this thread, too! I was getting ready to take a break from the Relationship topic for a while -so the positive spirit is like a warm turkish towel (I was going to write "a ray of sunshine"--pukish)

I think I am also kind of "blokish" in that I understand how a job can require so much overtime and never question it.

Our 20th anniversary is in December. He still calls me his "young bride".

ooh very dishy indeed.

will keep an eye out for the next gig then

What, Throbbin Hood?

<snigger>

Oo-er, that does sound rude!

That would be great

I'll find out when the next public gig is, they're usually out in the villages around Horsham, if you join the Throbbin Hood FB group they post details.

(DP's the one in the green t shirt

BoF you've met Dp , he is certainly not to be described as your typical hunk lol.

Reality - you will have to let me know of any future gigs, i could come along and swoon too

ROFL at rubbish compliments, DH said to me this morning after I'd dried my hair and was contemplating getting the straighteners out 'I love your hair, it's so pouffy!' and that's a good thing?? When we were going out he told me that one of the things he loved about me was that I don't care if I go out mismatched and that I pull off the 'dragged though a hedge backwards' look really well - and I still married him.

Ha ha, those rubbish compliments made me laugh! My DH is rubbish at them, too. When I'd deep-conditioned my hair, and asked him if it was soft and shiny, he said, 'Yes, it's really soft - it was all crispy before'. He also told me once that my hair was 'Lovely and fluffy'.

My DH also hates all forms of Sport, which is one of his best features, IMO. He is not remotely interested in cars, and is very handy at fixing things.

BrokkenHarted - I hope you find your perfect man. Big hugs darling. x

BrokkenHarted, hope you slept well.

There are plenty of good men out there and everyone deserves one.

Thankyou Reality

I am going through a break up with Husband and this thread has given me hope about my future. I think i deserve a good man like you and you have given me hope that they are out there. I will sleep peacefully tonight. You have no idea how grateful I am.

Oh, this is my favourite thread ever.

Have just got back from a gig where my amazing sexy DP was the star of the show and everyone (lots of strangers new friends) showered us with congrats and warm fuzzy sentiments.

<glow>

<gin>

Heeheehee, they are very cute

Reality - I just read your OP. Are you me?

Oh no - cos I have been married to a man like that for 15 years. He's a superstar (except with the washing-up, but yesterday morning he even did a load of that while he waited for the kettle to boil as I didn't have to get up (kids on hols here!)

I have a great relationship. Adding in that I have had some quite severe mental health problems (and, actually, physical health as well) and dh has cared and cared and cared for me. Every day he tells me I am gorgeous (though I am several stone overweight and don't look after myself enough).

We have a pretty good sex life and he is a fabulous Daddy to our 3 dc. I love him more than life.

You first BoF! Pictures of, not pictures by mind.

Praise from the delectable BOF may of course turn his head.

My profile pics could also be used to start a 'Babies who resemble Cluedo pieces' comp if you'd like to judge that too.

But you've got no pictures

i want to join this happy thread too......
have been with my lovely man for 25 years (married for 16) and we never argue.

he is kind, sexy, generous and a good person.

most of all he adores our 2 DCs

I have just looked at your pics RedLentil, and can indeed confirm that your husband is a bit of a dish. Anybody else care to post photos so that I may judge?

Abetadad. That is lovely.

I was just thinking earlier about the same thing happening, in a more bittersweet way, in Anne Enright's first novel, The Wig my Father Wore.

A man falls in love with his wife after years of marriage and starts taking pictures of her. His wife knows the pictures in the packets are of the woman he loves but can't bear to look and so fails to discover the affair is with her.

I also have a sunshiny universally-adored DH. When we were together a year my sister gave me a serious talk about how the glow would go and we would bicker and be bored of each other in years to come.

Happily she ditched the man she had been with for years and is now in her own really wonderful relationship with no sign of love abating.

We do occasionally lock horns over where boundaries are (and if I recall correctly year 3 back in the mists of time was boundary-setting season), but that lucked out feeling hits with impossible force very often too.

Reality- your happy posts at the moment are a great tonic.

my dh is a keeper too

we have been married 17 yrs and he has never treated me badly

he is nice, kind, lovely but no pushover

all my family love him and all the little old ladies think the sun shines out of his arse

but none of it is false charm, it is genuine

Ah, maybe it is because you have been on mumsnet and become a male oracle on all things likely to endear you to a woman, ABD

Reality - that is a lovely post after so many negative ones at DP/DH is a &*!£ ones I have read.

Congratulations on getting engaged and hope the planning goes well. Do try and remember what it is all really about though in all the chaos and excitement.

Mind you after 20 years of marriage don't ever do what DW did to me the other day as we lay on the sun loungers with our fingers entwined.

She sighed and said wistfully "I feel like I am having an affair ABetaDad". Well, this bombshell naturally came as something of a shock. Then she added, "I've never looked at another man ABetaDad but....". Then she paused for about five minutes and by now I had stopped breathing. Then she finally added, "but for the last three months I have just felt really in love with you".

"Well thats nice", I said while furiously gulping air in like a gold fish, "but you could have picked your words a bit more carefully!"

My DP puts the seat down [smug]

Nah, not really

This is a lovely cheery thread of loveliness, they do you good sometimes

< clears throat noisily and rolls up sleeves to get stuck into AIBU and not look a sissy >

I'm sooo glad for this thread, because I always want to boast about my wonderful DP too! He is the sweetest, gentlest, kindest, loveliest man ever and is utterly devoted to me. No-one makes me laugh the way he does, he's really clever, cultured and talented and we like the same stuff. He's gorgeous, with a body to die for and even though he's 9 years younger than me (yummy toyboy!), he is under the illusion that I am the sexiest woman alive and is always telling me how youthful and beautiful I am (he's also amazing in bed). He hates all sport, cars, DIY (although he's good at it - the perfect blend!) boozing, and is totally unsexist and unmacho; he has none of those annoying laddish/aggressive/bull-headed/'I must be right' behaviours so many other men have. He insists on doing more than 50% of the housework, despite me only working p-t, because I organise everything and run lots of errands for him in the day. He's really supportive and is always interested in me and how my day has been, etc. I am quick-tempered and get stressed easily and he is laidback and easygoing and he calms me down and keeps things chilled. We talk everything through and are total equals. Neither of us like going out much and we just stay in snuggling on the sofa watching DVDs, etc. or reading together. We go to bed holding hands every night and wake up by cuddling every morning. He gets on with my family and his family is nice too and he loves kids. Oh, and he lets me choose his clothes! Basically, he's my perfect man... apart from leaving the toilet seat up and not liking The Smiths. But you can't win 'em all, eh?

Before anyone pukes, I would like to point out that his compliments are rubbish - yesterday he told me my legs looked 'thick and muscly' when I got back from the gym (I made him explain and he meant toned and straight ie with no flabbiness) and he's just come in and told me my hair looks 'all lovely and frizzy'. Cheers!

Im a very confident and outgoing person and huge and I have been told many times that i scare men off. whenever i had a mini whinge about being single people would say that thats why.

Dp is tiny in comparison totally placid and wouldn't say boo to a goose. we are the opposite of each other in so many ways but we just seem to click.

We play bicker all the time, neither one of us wears the trousers. we kinda have a leg each. he certainly isn't brow beaten.

and we argue about who loves the other the most all teh time

Lovely thread - I think we can get a little nervous of the 'Hello Magazine' syndrome.. worrying that publicly declaiming how great our relationships are can 'curse' them somehow. Which is nonsense - actually it's so healthy to get excited about and be proud of our happy relationships. Good for you lot

Lovely thread - I think we can get a little nervous of the 'Hello Magazine' syndrome.. worrying that publicly declaiming how great our relationships are can 'curse' them somehow. Which is nonsense - actually it's so healthy to get excited about and be proud of our happy relationships. Good for you lot

i was with someone 6 yrs flat together the works but it always felt temporary to me.Met dp in June pregnant September and that was 18 yrs ago!It can work

Love is in the air!!

It will last! I've been with DH for 7 years and still think he's the best thing since sliced bread!! We are expecting our first child in September - and I know 100% he will be a brilliant dad!

Never before lunch.

Gingerly...I will give it time...I'll come back on here in a years time and Im pretty confident we'll still be together and married! I was with my ex for 4 years and there was no connection there. Why try and put a time frame on it??

BitOfFun we were engaged at around the 6 months mark aswel, Christmas actually. 'twas amazing! Im my opinion and Im sure you'll agree, sometimes you just know. As for the Man Utd thing, the fact that I could even contemplate living with/marrying a Man Utd fan...knowing that we will have kids one day and he'll want to buy them Man Utd shirts (bleugh!) and STILL love him??...thats the real deal to me.

ROFL @ horse tranquiliser

Oh and as a surprise he had my name tattooed on his arm in a style that matches one of my existing tatts.

We have an 11 week old (and a two year old) so i'm awake at odd hours. I find myself watching him sleep thinking "good work girl".
He does lots of sweet things but I particularly love the filthy post-it notes he leaves on the fridge before work. They always make me smile over my special K (cereal, not horse tranqulliser).

I get that little flip when I get a text still...especially rude ones like today [snigger]

Sorry, I meant to add congratulations.

RIMOD are you me? I could have written that post about DH and I, right down to the vast and tricky family bit.
We have been together three and a half years of which we have been married three.
I spent fourteen years with someone who I could never see myself growing old with. With DH I can picture things perfectly.
I'd say you have a winner there.

Well we didn't realize at the time it might take years to be able to afford to actually marry and live together [bankrupcy emoticon], and I was very clear that I don't believe in long engagements, but you don't know what life's going to throw at you, do you? So I might end up being one of those saddos who looks like Miss Haversham before we get to Do The Deed, so you'll probably still beat me to the altar

"funny really as the first time i met him i thought he was an arse"

Same here - I thought my DH was arrogant, and far too handsome to be of any interest. He turned out to be shy rather than arrogant, and interesting as well as gorgeous.

I remarked to him yesterday: "You appear to have devoted every second of your life to making me happy" and he replied, "Yep - pretty much!".

I can also relate to the tummy-flip thing. We have been together for 5 years, haven't spent a night apart in 3 years, and I still get all excited when I hear his key in the door.

You were engaged six months in BoF? I need to give DP a poke in that case, it'll be 3 years in the autumn!

Why are you so negative gingerly? Is it not beyond the realms of all possibilities that some people make a commitment to make their partner happy and enjoy the relationship?

I personally believe a lot of women are unhappy in relationships (or being single) because they have unrealistic expectations. You can (IMO) to a certain extent choose to love.

Oh well, I'm off - I've just seen my gorgeous man cycle past in a pair of shorts so he's waiting outside my office so we can go home, swim in the lake with the dogs and tell each other how much we love each other.

<<deluded moo>>

A year is plenty of time. I was engaged six months in.

I am more worried about him being a Man United fan tbh...

You have known him a YEAR! give it time

D'you know, I was just thinking to myself the other day that if I was to go on MN about how fantastic my Fiance is, would I come across as smug? I know now the answer is no, and its really refreshing to see this thread.

Its lovely to see some other people that are as happy and loved up as I am, all my mates keep giving it the "all men are B***ds" routine, but I feel so lucky to have met my future hubby.

My dp is the most kind, loving, funny, most sexy man I have ever known. I feel so lucky that our paths crossed (Im from Leeds and he's from B'ham). We met last yr march at a mutual friends party and I have done nothing but think about him ever since, we got together officially in the June and I pretty much knew from the start that this is the man I want to be with forever. I told my best mate after two weeks "I'm gonna marry him, you watch" A year on Im now in B'ham living with him and we're getting married next yr.

No relationship is perfect obviously (he supports Man Utd and Im a Arsenal fan ) but I can honestly say that we have never had a real argument, mainly because we cant be arsed. We have had heated discussions (mainly cos of my PMT) but generally agree to disagree or resolve it, lifes too short at the end of the day.

He's just so cool and laid back and has such a good heart, he will do anything for me and he treats me like a Queen. I just cant express enough how much I love him, even though I tell him everyday.

I could honestly go on all day about him, but I've got work to do, lol!

But I am one of the lucky ones, who has got a absolutely bloody amazing man!!

"i'm looking for a nice guy who doesn't bore me or let me walk over them."

hmmm you see a lot of the "nice" guys I know in RL actually DO get walked all over by the women in their lives. yes they never argue but from where I am standing the relationships do not look perfect!

To my mind there is a happy medium and if it involves somebody asserting themselves in day to day life then so be it.

YOUR HEARTS FLIP WHEN YOU SEE YOUR H?
friggin nora

ah so there's hope for me yet.

i'm often described as being blokeish.

and <ahem> "cold-hearted" is a recurring thing i get called. usually when rather than continue a relationship with someone who is arguementative or treats me poorly as i just walk away and dont want to speak to them again. even as friends tbh.

i'm looking for a nice guy who doesn't bore me or let me walk over them.

and doesn't mind if the house is a tip.

and perhaps tidies it if i cant be arsed

this thread goes to show there are men out there like that.

<ponders where to find them?>

Agreed an unhealthy relationship is an unhealthy relationship but it would be impossible to be with me and not argue - you would get very brow beaten very quickly its just the way I am.

I know some people love it!Don't get it though if you dislike each other so much that there is no respect and kindness why not cut your losses.A bit of drama is ok I am talking about real strife and lack of commitment.A lot of my friends are in realtionships where they just don't seem to want to be there

Hehehehe, I think we have actually rowed about who loved the other one more (drunk, obviously)

I remember I used to think to myself that the day my heart doesn't do a wee flip when DP walks in through the door is the day I'll be worried about us.

8 years and one beautiful dd later and it still does!

I love it when he comes home from work . We've been through some crap but we are the best we've ever been now. He makes me feel adored, respected and like I'm a total sexpot!

He is kind, loving, uncomplicated, the best dad I've ever seen, makes me pee my pants laughing and has a big willy What more could I ask for?!

Loving this thread!!!

Our biggest (and only) rows to date have been about broccoli and margaret thatcher.

I have friends who live in one of those sniping houses mentioned and it's horrible. A couple came to my house once to pick up a x-trainer I was using to hang clothes on. Every other sentence was "honey, you fucking idiot, do you want me to xxx ?" in reall passive-aggressive tones. I actually walked out of own house!

"exciting relationships between people who row a lot really do look like misery"
But maybe they are not misery for the people in them.

I like a bit of drama. Think I would get bored without it. to me, being bored would be a terrible thing, its just the way I am.

Although, actually, our dramas are relatively minor… mostly its pretty smooth.

You deserve it mamazon although I must admit I am shocked that there are so many men who aren't like that because as someone else said a chilled out happy relationship does not have to be dull far from it.There is a lot to be said for just getting on and liking each other.A lot of the time exciting relationships between people who row a lot really do look like misery

thats the thing isn't it Noddy. he may not be perfect, but he's perfect for me.

thats all that counts

I think that's spot on, Mrs Boogie. That way, even when there are misunderstandings, you always know it never came from a place of malice or meanness. Being kind is very important. We sometimes disagree, but it doesn't even feel like it really, it's just a conversation, and we usually end up laughing. Not something I think I'll get bored of!

I know I try to remember it though.We do have plenty of rows though as we are both quite opinionated but have never had a 'real' row that wasn't over s quick as it began.He farts a lot though so not perfect

blimey noddyholder you struck lucky there!

niceness is very overrated but I think that what is really important is kindness in a relationship by which I mean you would not want to ever do anything to deliberately hurt the other. Kindness begets kindness I think.

im a bit of a chunky and when we first got together i hated the thought of him seeing me naked.

we'd have a bit of a cuddle and he'd grab my belly. i'd hate it and say stop..he'd turn to me and say no, its part of you and i love every inch.

i know sleep naked and couldn't care less.
he really has done wonders for my self esteem.

even if we do make the oddest looking couple ever lol

Different strokes for different folks - what a good relationship looks like is different for everyone.

I never wanted a "nicey nice" bloke who never argues with me. I just don't think that could keep me interested long term.

yeah, high maintannace seems to much of an exhausting thing for all involved....could not do with high drama all the time...

oh and dweezle, yeah, niceness seems far to underrated....and perfectly good looks totally overrated....

Me too, Dweezle.

My sister is very high maintenance and I just think she must be EXHAUSTED all the time.

Nice is a hugely underrated trait. I have a nice bloke. We are very peaceful and calm and happy together. I know some couples who always seem to be sniping at each other, and their homes are not easy to be in.

We have been together for years, and do not row. We occasionally have a disagreement, but sing out of the same hymn book on the big things.

My DH also says I'm a bit blokey with regard to emotional stuff. I do not do diva and am very low maintenance. I think I'm happier because of it.

I have actual tears now (second time today).

He sounds like an amazing man.

I love hearing these - it restores your faith a bit doesn't it?

My dp is an angel.Looked after me through 2 transplants and then cancer surgery.Never complained and always kept things going.All the health probs left me with a dodgy heart and he just accepts everything and works his arse off so that I don't have to.Still treats me like we only just met and tells me he loves me every day!He is just one of lifes good people thank god our paths crossed.He is also pretty hot in the sack

Mamazon that's wonderful and you deserve it.

Mamazon...you know,that is somehting my dh does...I mean, he tells me everyday that he loves me....bless...

aww thats lovely.

Dp has totally changed me.
i am incredibly emotionally guarded. im so scared of letting n tha i like someone just for them to decide they can't be bothered and hurt me. i can't bare to be open and emotionally vulnerable.

but DP has totally turned me around. He tells em he loves me every day, almost every other sentance actually. and i reply that i love him too. something i have always squirmed at before. i have discussed the future and how i feel and what our long term plans are....things that i just could never imagine myself doing.

I really, honestly don't think i have ever loved anyone the way i do him.

funny really as the first time i met him i thought he was an arse

awww reality...sounds like you and your other half get on well

I do moan about my dh at times...but, when all is said and done...I wouldn't want to be without him, lol...and whilst we are not the most romantic of couples , we are best friends, which is why I think our marriage is still working 13 years in....

I have a wonderful relationship. My OH adores me and makes it his mission to make me happy. He's kind, thoughtful, supportive, makes me howl with laughter and picks me up when I'm down.

It makes me sad when I read about so many unhappy relationships here.

<sniff>

That's so lovely

How lovely is this thread?

I've been dating someone for 6 months, and have suddenly fallen madly in love with him. I just can't believe I feel this way again (thought I was doomed to just feel "off" and had kind of resigned myself to a life of meaningless shags short term relationships with me always holding all the cards)

It's scary, but such a lovely feeling, that even if it all ends tomorrow, I will be forever grateful to him for allowing me to reconnect with true emotions.

<was a gently jokey slap btw, not full-swing throw-you-across-the-room slap>

<slaps GingerIgnormaus>

Don't ruin this for us!

<puts fingers in ears>

la la la

No doom and gloom on this thread, you.

yes then you find out he is having an affair tomorrow

I DID put a disclaimer, you herberts.

No, it's nice really

Vomits copiously over keyboard.

<raspberries>

vomit

Aw thanks .

Awww reality thats lovely.
oddly enough they are pretty much the same reasons Dp gives for why he loves me too

and i just have to take this opportunity to say Congratulations you lucky thing, BitofFun text me the good news but i couldn't get online at the time

Leave him now.

(joke) It's nice to get some positives on here for a change!!

<whispers> MrsBoogie I may have exaggerated the tidiness aspect somewhat

It's the best way - better than arriving at a speed dating thingie with twenty questions anyway, I should imagine. A bit more "Try before you buy"...

Always best to try before you buy

A lot of your post could describe my relationship with my bloke (except the bit where the house is beautiful and tidy )

I think I am also quite blokish in that I don't do moods, or very luckily for me and him, hormones. I have never had PMT and never even had a fit of the sniffles after giving birth or when pregnant. I also refuse to nag,ever, about anything. He is kind and lovely and nothing like the waste of space losers I spent my previous life with. He also does at least as much as I do with our 9 month old baby and I work full time too. But if I am not at work and he comes home and the house is a tip and I have been MNing all day he would never say a word.

So listen up all you ladies in unhapy relationships - you are not doomed to repeat that pattern forever!

Don't tell anyone (because I'm not that sort of girl ) but DP was originally supposed to be just a bit of fun too, not a proper relationship.

<snort>

'Tis true

Teehee, me three

As a wise woman once told me...men are like carpet tiles : lay 'em right the first time and you can walk on them forever

Longest one night stand I've ever had!

Ooh, I shall have to go and have a nose...< wells up >

"I knew I would marry him after our first date (after our supposed one night stand blush) as I had never felt so comfortable with another person, no awkwardness at all, flip flops in my tummy but that was nice".

I could have written that bit

FAQ is getting remarried? Didn't know that! Knew they were back togther-ish, but not the married thing. Where is the thread so I can go say congratulations?

Awww, lovely thread.

You sound very lucky to have found each other, very well suited.

Have been with DH for 13 years, married for 7 and I can honestly say that he is the nicest person I have ever met. He is kind and caring and would do anything for me and our boys.
I can be moody/temperamental but he knows how to handle me and has what my Mother describes as a "quiet strength".
I knew I would marry him after our first date (after our supposed one night stand ) as I had never felt so comfortable with another person, no awkwardness at all, flip flops in my tummy but that was nice.

I wonder if he'd come home for lunch if I asked him????

What with this thread and FAQ getting remarried to her DH, it's a lovely day on MN today.

<blissful>

Hehehehe.


Yes.

Reality, do you think it helps that we are demons in the sack too?

Lol, I'm all sweetness and light on here cos I haven't been here long enough to get away with being grumpy Plus if you lot annoy me I can kill you switch off the computer. People in RL just don't go away.

It's so nice to have an 'I like DP/DH' thread to go with the ones about people splitting up or arguing all the time.

PlumBumMum, that's lovely <warm fuzzy>

<<squeeze for Ginnny>>

OH Reality you just described my dh, and the good news is that tomorrow we will be the 16th anniversary of our first kiss!

We have 3 dcs and have been married 9 years, and I still love him and fancy him to bits and he feels the same about me,
although sometimes we will have a really stupid fight but just to have a really good make up

Thanks BoF, I think that's it, we are nice and we are simple

Maybe there's hope for me yet then Reality???

I'm feeling quite emotional now ...

You sound ideally suited to me! Of course things don't have to descend into bickering - I really believe you are either a couple who does bicker, or not. I too am a simple creature and have a wonderful kind helpful clever partner who treats me with love and affection all the time. It's been three and a half years so far, and I couldn't fault him for anything and we are stupidly happy together. That might sound smug, but I think we are just very very lucky, and probably both quite nice. You two sound like lucky nice people too

Lol at Wednesday Addams. that's not at all how you come across on here .

Aw <wipes tear>

How lovely.

Ginnny, I thought the same as you before i met DP, that I was more suited to badduns because I'd walk all over a goodun. Not true. DP brings out the best in me, and the fuckwits brought out the worst.

Of course your sister is wrong. If she is a bickerer and a spiner then maybe bickering and sniping are inevitable for her, but not for you.

Awww, sounds lovely.

"I am a SAHM with children at school and my day is mostly spent on MN so if I want something done I can do it myself"

Can I skip to that part of life please? (pref with DP being DH by that point and making oodles of money so I can have pretty cake tins for the gorgeous cakes I will bake)

DP said one of the things he likes about me iis that I am a bit like Wednesday from the Addams family - my default position is not to like people very much (humans are rubbish). So it means much more that I like him, apparently.

Seriously, I wish I could be more like you but I'm not. (Sometimes I think I might even be a bit passive/aggressive but would never admit it!!)
I wish I could meet a man like yours, but in reality I would probably either walk all over him and lose respect for him for letting me or I'd get bored.
I am and always have been attracted to the wrong type of men and it always leads to disaster.
I know but true.
I'm happy for you though - we need more happy threads like this on here.

What a lovely idea for a thread.

I know just what you mean about being 'blokish'. My husband is very honest and straightforward, and since we have been together, I have learnt to be more honest and straightforward, too. It makes our life together easy and happy.

My husband is the nicest man in the world. he is nice to me 100% of the time, and will always consider my feelings before his own. For instance, money has been a bit tight recently, but he offered to pay for a haircut, facial and manicure because I had a big night out with some old friends and he thought it would be important for me to look good for it.

He never looks at other women, and tells me I am beautiful every day. He appreciates every little thing I do for him, and does everything I ask of him without complaining.

He is also extremely handsome with nice shiny floppy hair and dimples.

I think your sister is wrong - bickering and sniping are not necessary or inevitable, as long as you continue to love, respect and appreciate one another - and I believe your happiness will last.

I'm married to a fabulous man, only 2.5 years married with a LO so I hope it lasts
He's absolutely fantastic - I'm a SAHM and some days he comes back from work to find me on MN, dishes in the sink, vacuum cleaner idle where he left it after hoovering up the night before and telltale biscuit crumbs on my chin and he'll still make me a cuppa and ask how my day was. He never judges me even when it's obvious that I've done nothing all day except play with DD. He's so undemanding and he's a brilliant dad. He always lets me know he finds me sexy, even at 9 mths pregnant, bloated and grumpy he still told me I was gorgeous. He spoils me rotten by bringing me tea every morning, doing little things that don't seem like much but are brilliant. He works all day but never reminds me that I need to crack on with stuff cos he's earning the money...at least once I day I feel he's got the raw end of the deal. I just get pampered and loved and he gets to eat my cooking!!
My parents have been together 38 years and they're completely in love. Ok, they've had tricky times but if my relationship with DH is anything like theirs in 30 years I'll be chuffed to bits.
I loved planning my wedding...wish it happened more than once cos I'd love to do it again!!

Thanks Hully.

You read so many sad stories about awful marriages and it's good to be reminded that it doesn;t have to be that way, I think.

Aaaahhhhhhhhhhh. I think that's lovely. (My dh is great too!)

He does have a single (older) brother who is a lifelong bachelor.

And he has an identical twin, but he's married already so you can't have him.

We've told all our friends we're getting married and the overriding theme is that they knew we would from day one and they've never met a couple so suited <ahhhh>.

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Sounds like a keeper to me! Enjoy it

He sounds wonderful.

Does he have a single brother?

Oh, you unromantic lot.

Come on, I am planning my wedding and it's a sunny day. Come and be all sappy and romantic with me. Well, not WITH me, but YKWIM .

..but in a good way and it's what DP loves most about me . This is just a bit of an indulgent post to ponder on my lovely fiance and our relationship, hope no one minds.

What he said (we were a bit squiffy) was that I'm the most uncomplicated girl he's ever met.

He said blokes are simple creatures, and women tend to be much more complex but that he doesn't think I am at all, hence I am more like a bloke.

For example he said that if he's a bit low, I'll cheer him up. Rather than probe him as to why he's low and go on at him until he talks about it etc (although we do talk, a lot, about everything).

Or if he's tired or can't be bothered to do something, I'll say fine and either leave it or do it myself. I won't be passive aggressive or moody about it, if he doesn't want to do it then I won't make him (this is because it doesn't happen often and he is brilliant at pulling his weight, in fact I have definitely got the better deal here).

Or if he asks me to do something and I don't want to, I'll say no. He says this is brilliant because he knows (this is true) that I won't say I'll do something I don't want to and then be a martyr to it.

It doesn't look as good written down but it was all very romantic when he was explaining it to me. I don't know about being blokish, I think it's just that I am shallow and can't be doing with Deep Thoughts most of the time .

We don't argue, and I think that's because we are both incredibly laid back, and although life has its stresses, we're never (so far) on opposite sides so we lean on each other.

I am a lazy cow when it comes down to it and will do the bare mimimum effort with housework for eg, although our house is beautiful and clean and tidy I don't devote my life to it (like my mother) and don't get stressed about it. So I don't nag, because a) I am a SAHM with children at school and my day is mostly spent on MN so if I want something done I can do it myself and b) I hate to be nagged myself so wouldn't do it to him.

He is the NICEST person I have ever met, he is one of life's goodies and a wonderful human being (puts me to shame actually because I can be a right cowbag ). He is never cross with me, even if he comes home from a hard days work to find me sprawled on the sofa surrounded by chaos he'll just ask if I've had a nice day.

He is daddy to my children, who adore him, he handles my vast and tricky family with aplomb, he gets roaring drunk with me and then looks after me when I'm hung over, he lets me make all the decisions wrt finances and house stuff and he always does the washing up. Plus he's the cleverest and most talented person I've ever met and he's gorgeous.

So, do you think it will last? We are two years in and things are still pretty much perfect. Will it all come crumbling down or does anyone have a relationship like this that has lasted a long time? My sister says that bickering and sniping is inevitable after a while, I don't think it has to be.

Come and tell me all about your GOOD relationships.