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So, apparently I'm quite 'blokish'.... (and other things about me and DP, it's probably quite pukeworthy so all you unromantic types should probably avoid)

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..but in a good way and it's what DP loves most about me grin. This is just a bit of an indulgent post to ponder on my lovely fiance and our relationship, hope no one minds.

What he said (we were a bit squiffy) was that I'm the most uncomplicated girl he's ever met.

He said blokes are simple creatures, and women tend to be much more complex but that he doesn't think I am at all, hence I am more like a bloke.

For example he said that if he's a bit low, I'll cheer him up. Rather than probe him as to why he's low and go on at him until he talks about it etc (although we do talk, a lot, about everything).

Or if he's tired or can't be bothered to do something, I'll say fine and either leave it or do it myself. I won't be passive aggressive or moody about it, if he doesn't want to do it then I won't make him (this is because it doesn't happen often and he is brilliant at pulling his weight, in fact I have definitely got the better deal here).

Or if he asks me to do something and I don't want to, I'll say no. He says this is brilliant because he knows (this is true) that I won't say I'll do something I don't want to and then be a martyr to it.

It doesn't look as good written down but it was all very romantic when he was explaining it to me. I don't know about being blokish, I think it's just that I am shallow and can't be doing with Deep Thoughts most of the time grin.

We don't argue, and I think that's because we are both incredibly laid back, and although life has its stresses, we're never (so far) on opposite sides so we lean on each other.

I am a lazy cow when it comes down to it and will do the bare mimimum effort with housework for eg, although our house is beautiful and clean and tidy I don't devote my life to it (like my mother) and don't get stressed about it. So I don't nag, because a) I am a SAHM with children at school and my day is mostly spent on MN so if I want something done I can do it myself and b) I hate to be nagged myself so wouldn't do it to him.

He is the NICEST person I have ever met, he is one of life's goodies and a wonderful human being (puts me to shame actually because I can be a right cowbag grin). He is never cross with me, even if he comes home from a hard days work to find me sprawled on the sofa surrounded by chaos he'll just ask if I've had a nice day.

He is daddy to my children, who adore him, he handles my vast and tricky family with aplomb, he gets roaring drunk with me and then looks after me when I'm hung over, he lets me make all the decisions wrt finances and house stuff and he always does the washing up. Plus he's the cleverest and most talented person I've ever met and he's gorgeous.

So, do you think it will last? We are two years in and things are still pretty much perfect. Will it all come crumbling down or does anyone have a relationship like this that has lasted a long time? My sister says that bickering and sniping is inevitable after a while, I don't think it has to be.

Come and tell me all about your GOOD relationships.

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Add message | Report | Contact poster By Mon 06-Jul-09 14:58:37
< sharp intake of breath >
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Mon 06-Jul-09 12:59:48
delusion? Denial? I just don't know which comes first anymore.grin
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Mon 06-Jul-09 11:24:50
Pan - no he ain't grin
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Mon 06-Jul-09 10:35:53
I agree with AnyFucker - the singer is a total hottie!
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Mon 06-Jul-09 10:34:01
Delusion - he is gay.
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Mon 06-Jul-09 10:20:08
Guitar in the band, but he also plays piano and violin.

He and his brother (also in the band) are very talented musicians.
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Mon 06-Jul-09 10:02:17
What does your soon-to-be-DH play?
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Mon 06-Jul-09 07:57:52
That's the singer. I'll tell him you're swooning and his head will explode with bigness.

grin

DP is quite sensitive about his lack of hair, bless.
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sun 05-Jul-09 22:23:52
Ha, he has more hair than a lot of 29 year olds I know - I knew a guy who started university with worse male-pattern baldness than that!
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sun 05-Jul-09 20:43:18
reality, your bloke is cute, but who is the one next to him ? < swoon >
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