thank you

Fab, it's active. 6th visit I think it's called.

Sorry you feel so bad at the moment.

AN is the stately homes thread about?

I just feel so mixed up today.

There are a lot of things unresolved in my life and I am finding that really hard to cope with at the moment.

Sounds like you are seeing things in black and white eg you have a small disagreement with DH and think the relationship is doomed. Most people have disagreements and it doesn't mean they need to split up.

I think this black and white thinking can develop when you had traumas in the past that aren't fully processed yet, because anything even a little bit bad makes you scared that it is going to escalate into being as bad as the past traumas even if this is very unlikely.

dh says we can't move yet

on ads already..

living somewhere were you feel unsafe can be very draining can you look at moving, or could you speak to GP or someone as it sounds as tho you could possible have anixety or some form of depression

case in point - dh won't let me talk to him about something and i assume my marriage is over and wonder if i can even be bothered to fight for it.

It sounds stupid but I don't know how to not let things get too much for me and then cause me more problems.

Is there a new 'hobby' you could get into to give yourself a bit of a spark about your life? Are you expecting DH to provide that spark? What things do you like doing? Do you have any little things to look forward to each day? Even if it is something as small as having a coffee and reading a magazine, I think we all need lots of little things in our day that give us a bit of enjoyment.

The answer to all of life's excitement and happiness is not to rely on your partner to provide it all because nobody can be everything to you. I think if you've had a difficult past you kind of expect the person you end up with to 'rescue' you and make everything wonderful but with such high expectations it is really easy to feel disappointed by them.