I am a full time mum with 2 boys aged 4 and 2. I am exhausted all the time and by the time the kids go to bed all I want to do is forget everything and watch TV or read.
My husband has a very high sex drive and he asks for sex almost every day and tends to pester about it(in a lighthearted way). But if I say no he sulks. I try to say positive things and genuinly want to try to find the energy for it, but often by the time it's a possibility I am too tired and I can't stand the thought of anyone else climbing on my body!
I can't really enjoy my evenings because I feel guilty and inadequate as a wife and a lover and his almost relentless huffs and annoying comments about it make me want to have sex with him even less.
He talks as if we hardly ever do it, but we do - I try to never let it drift longer than a week, but because I always end up forcing myself into it I get sore afterwards and can feel pain from it for the next 3 or 4 days even if we use lubrication.
I have asked him to just lay off asking about it for at least a few days so that I can relax and then try to rediscover my sex drive, but he just gets angry and says that I am trying to change him. He says I should be happy that he still fancies me and wants to have sex with me. (I am happy about this.)
Maybe we are both just exhausted - he finds sex a relaxing thing and I find it painful, stressful and hard work.
At the moment I am sick of the whole business and would love to share more time with him when sex is completely off the agenda, but this never happens because we only see each other in the evenings and cannot afford babysitters.
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PuddingSpoon · 13/06/2009 00:14
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