When DP asked me to move in with him I was a little aprehensive as I am a very solitary person. I NEED space, I NEED time to myself. I am highly anti-social and I know that's nothing to be proud of but its who I am, I can't help that.
He PROMISED that I would get time to myself. He PROMISED I would get time in the house on my own ... I believed him and moved in.
Now he NEVER goes anywhere. He never goes out unless I'm going out too. He used to go to his parents once a week, he didn't go last week and only went this week because I asked him to.
I wanted my mum to come down as she hasn't been to this house before and I wanted to be able to chat with her in private, like we used to when I lived on my own. So I mentioned that he had not been to his parents last week and could he go this week so I could have some time with his mum. He reluctantly agreed ... but said he would like to be here when she got here so he could say hello he promised he would leave after 10 minutes. Anyway, she got here at 9.50am. He faffed around until 10.40am before he actually left and he was supposed to be staying until 3pm and he's just text me to say he's on his way home.
He just won't give me any space. He is only working part time at the moment and has finished work by 8am ... so he's here ALL DAY.
He's supposed to be looking for full time but suggested he looked for night work so basically he'd still be here all day.
I said "no"
So he's now looking for a 6am until 2pm shift I said "why don't you just look for a 9-5 job like other people?" and he said he doesn't want to be at work all day, he likes to be at home during the day (don't we all!)
I'm getting really annoyed with it all.
Aibu to insist that he goes out more and gives me more time with the house to myself??
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DP never gives me time on my own
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FamilyMisfortunes · 09/06/2009 13:54
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