that they just bore you, that you have no stimulating conversation left- no matter how hard you try- and that physically, he just doesn't turn you on any more?
We have been married for a long time and the DCs are almost left home.
I always had doubts about him but decided to give it a chance. I have been on the verge of leaving for a long time, but have always stayed for the DCs.
In so many ways I cannot fault him: loyal, kind, thoughtful ( mostly)good father etc. BUT he is VERY quiet and a loner- he has no friends of his own. I need people who can engage me and talk to me and interest me in their ideas about life and the universe, and who are a bit "edgy". I find him incredibly boring and prefer going out with my girl friends- we at least have a laugh and a good chat about life.
However, I know that breaking up would be like losing a right arm as we have been together so long. We would have to sell the home that we have put a lot of effort into, and quite frankly, I'd be poor compared to what we have together.
Ever cell in my brain tells me I should not be with him feeling as I do, but I lack the guts to do it- and to hurt him as he really loves me.
Anyone else been like this and gone through with it?
Must ad- have also tried counselling and all it did was confirm that I am not happy.
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Has anyone left their husband for these reasons.....
blackberrywine · 09/06/2009 12:39
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